3 dates with 3 women in 3 days, well actually 4 if I go to Long Island and see a customer friend I used to know that emailed and asked me to come visit her. So one tonight, one tommorow, one tommorow night, and one on Sunday. Whew...this should be quit something. Just got to remember their names, but I'd still take my x back in a heartbeat. I had another vivid dream last night about her...and its scary the detail and conversation. She said Camille told her to wait and convinced her to try to be a family again. Don't know how I came up with that. Maybe it is time...
Friday, July 10, 2009
The Homeless Rate Increases, Miford Want's A Boardwalk, And The Poor Mexicans
I picked up the newpaper today and USA Todays headlines is that Mexicans are suffering from the economy and sent back to Mexico $1.9 billion less money than last year acording to the Bank Of Mexico...what a shame, maybe they will go back then beause they have taken all the work away from Americans, not being on the books or not paying tax, and most are illegal. So that story was all of pg 1 &2.
So then economist are not sure but suspect that unemployment could go as high as 11% the highest in US history as no one is spending and afraid to spend, that is the only thing that will prevent joblessness and keep people working. No money, no buy, no job, no money...period. I and many others have never seen things this bad in our whole life. To boot, they now say that the homeless rate is 1 in 4 and has grown considerably since last year. Some 11 million americans are now homeless.
So in the Connecticut post Milford is throwing a fit, and Mayor Richitelli is upset because the State Of Connecticut "WON'T" give them $2 million dollars (can you believe it? I would have laughed if I was Govenor Rell) so they can build a boardwalk from Silver Sands to Walnut Beach. ARE YOU KIDDING? WAKE UP? There's a major recession, people are losing jobs and their homes and they wan't 2 million so people can walk on wood ? why not use it to clean up the city, clean up the police department, help the jobless, help the homeless....California is almost in Bankruptcy, people are stuggling just trying to pay the rediculous rents of $1300 and up around here...and they have nothing better to do but ask for 2 million to throw away. Look around, look at the other towns...no one is building anything...Period. All you have there is a beach...walk on it.
So then economist are not sure but suspect that unemployment could go as high as 11% the highest in US history as no one is spending and afraid to spend, that is the only thing that will prevent joblessness and keep people working. No money, no buy, no job, no money...period. I and many others have never seen things this bad in our whole life. To boot, they now say that the homeless rate is 1 in 4 and has grown considerably since last year. Some 11 million americans are now homeless.
So in the Connecticut post Milford is throwing a fit, and Mayor Richitelli is upset because the State Of Connecticut "WON'T" give them $2 million dollars (can you believe it? I would have laughed if I was Govenor Rell) so they can build a boardwalk from Silver Sands to Walnut Beach. ARE YOU KIDDING? WAKE UP? There's a major recession, people are losing jobs and their homes and they wan't 2 million so people can walk on wood ? why not use it to clean up the city, clean up the police department, help the jobless, help the homeless....California is almost in Bankruptcy, people are stuggling just trying to pay the rediculous rents of $1300 and up around here...and they have nothing better to do but ask for 2 million to throw away. Look around, look at the other towns...no one is building anything...Period. All you have there is a beach...walk on it.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Cover-ups, Scandals, and Corruption Hit Milford & Stratford Head-On
Cover-ups, scandals, and corruption seem to have plagued the Stratford and Milford Police departments, as officers were hired that never should have been, like related to the mayor, leaked private information, and gung-ho speeding cops that have crashed patrol cars and even took the lives of two Innocent teenagers a few weeks ago. Everyday they are in the paper having some sort of internal chaos and it is disappointing as a citizen to think that there are high ethics of character and integrity when there appears that there is not. We are held accountable as law abiding citizens and why shouldn't the police and their departments be held accountable for their actions too, without scandal, cover-ups, and more corruption? Witnesses said they saw the cop speeding...and never even had a chance to hit his brakes. He should be held accountable for his irresponsibility and should have to obey the speed limit too. If your a parent you know how precious your children really are. What a heart break.
Parents were at fatal crash scene
Parents were at fatal crash scene
By Richard Weizel
STAFF WRITER
Updated: 06/14/2009 07:48:38 PM EDT
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ORANGE -- Frank and Susan Servin were on their way home early Saturday morning after a rare night out when they stopped at the scene of "a horrific accident" at the intersection of Route 1 and Dogwood Road, a short distance from their home.
But Susan Servin said that while they were shocked to see the mangled remains of the vehicle struck by a Milford police cruiser on its way back from a mutual aid call in West Haven, a bigger shock was yet to come.
They had no idea that their 19-year old son, David, and his girlfriend, Ashlie Krakowski were inside the 2008 Mazda until police appeared at their home a short time later.
David Servin, they were told, died at the scene, and Krakowski, 19, also of Orange, died a short time later after being extricated from the car, which is owned by her father, Kenneth Krakowski. State police investigating the accident say they still aren't sure who was driving.
"The car was so badly crushed we thought it was a hatchback of some kind," Susan Servin said. "We could tell it was a horrible accident and people at the scene who witnessed it told us they saw police cars racing down the road." Witnesses told police another cruiser was trailing behind the one involved in the fatal accident.
She said that "after mingling" for a while with the crowd, she and her husband went home.
"Shocking and devastating" was how she described the news of her son's death.
"We spoke to David on his cell phone just a couple of hours before the accident and he said everything was fine and he would see us later," she said, sobbing. "Who would have ever thought that would be the last time we would hear his voice?"
She said her son had many friends and "never hesitated to help out" doing chores around the house and just "being there for anybody" who needed his help.
"He was a role model for his 17-year-old brother, James," who will be a senior at Amity Regional High School in September, Servin said.
She added that their 21-year-old daughter, Sara, a student at the University of Connecticut, is on her way back from a trip to Argentina. "She and Dave were like soul mates, she's completely devastated."
Servin said while her son and Krakowski were only dating a few months, they were always together.
"We loved her, too. They were a cute couple and Ashlie was here all the time," Servin said, fighting back tears.
Servin said her son had attended Arizona State University for a semester last fall and was now taking classes at Gateway Community College, and working in the deli department at Stop & Shop in West Haven.
Stunned friends said they still couldn't believe that Servin died so tragically.
"I watched him grow up right in front of my eyes, from a little kid with a high-pitched voice to a guy who was outgoing, confident and so funny he could put a smile on your face with his impressions of other people," said 21-year-old Patrick A. Daley, who lives across the street from the Servin family on Sheldon Court. "He was the kind of person who you would see after a really bad day at work and have you laughing your head off within a few minutes.
"This is a small town and all the kids here grew up together," Daley said. "Everybody knew Dave."
The driver of the Milford police cruiser, Officer Jason Anderson, was treated and released at Yale-New Haven Hospital Saturday morning. He sustained internal and other injuries in the accident and will likely be out on medical leave for at least a week, according to Milford Officer Vaughan Dumas, police spokesman.
"The way the car was mangled that police car had to be going really fast," Daley said. "I get angry thinking about it. We would like to know exactly what did happen."
State Police Lt. J. Paul Vance said "we cannot speculate until we have put all the facts together." Vance said the State Police Collision Analysis Reconstruction Team is investigating the crash, at the request of Orange Police Chief Robert J. Gagne.
"We know everybody has a lot of questions, and so do we," Vance said. "But it's going to take several weeks to complete the investigation and determine how fast the cars were going and who was at fault."
Dumas declined to comment on the state police investigation, but said it would include reviewing footage from a dash-camera mounted on Anderson's cruiser.
Officer Anderson, who has been with the department less than five years, was returning to Milford from West Haven, where four Milford officers and a supervisor had been dispatched to join police from several area communities in assisting West Haven police handle a disturbance at the Utopia Bar.
The victims' vehicle was traveling in the opposite direction on Route 1 when it apparently made a sudden left turn into the path of the Milford cruiser, state police said.
Krakowski was studying to be a nurse, friends said. Her family declined comment when reached by telephone Sunday.
Staff writer Noelle Frampton contributed to this story.
Why A Woman Need's A Man - Consumer Alert
I was talking to a friend of mine who is a mechanic and I asked him what he thought of these cars because my x had one. This is my "x's" car, which she bought from the $14,000 dollars I gave her, and I am worried about my girls because it has such bad reviews. I know my x is stubborn and won't ask for help but I wish she had my help and assistance before she made the purchase, but unfortunately I wasn't in the picture. The mini van (Chrysler) she had before buying this and the one we had as a family should have made her realize that they suck, especially after I put $3000.00 dollars into ours for a transmission. That's why there aren't any cirrus's on the road. Retail value $1000 to $2000 dollars.
Pros: Sleek appearance, average mileage, smooth ride
Cons: Transmission issues in this model, replacement parts impossible to acquire
The Bottom Line: I definitely do not recommend this vehicle! It is a constant pain and will only bring you suffering. Ask any mechanic. Stay away from the Chrysler Cirrus!
Pros: Sleek appearance, average mileage, smooth ride
Cons: Transmission issues in this model, replacement parts impossible to acquire
The Bottom Line: I definitely do not recommend this vehicle! It is a constant pain and will only bring you suffering. Ask any mechanic. Stay away from the Chrysler Cirrus!
Chrysler Cirrus LXi review from North America
"I was a dope for buying this nice looking vehicle with major reliability issues!"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
Transmission, Transmission, Transmission!!!
General comments?
My college-bound daughter begged me for this 1995 Cirrus LXi; the price was good, cosmetically, it's beautiful and despite my prior misgivings about Chryslers, I caved and bought it "as-is". We have owned it only 1 month and 3 weeks of it have been spent in repair shops. The day we drove it home the trans went into limp mode (2nd gear) while my daughter was doing 70 mph on the interstate. She almost got into a wreck. I drove the rest of the way home and it was fine. Dealer service couldn't find anything wrong with it, but proceeded to sell me $500 of other recommended work, which we did. 2 days later car went into limp mode again. This time took it to a transmission shop who initially told me it needed a new transmission solenoid pack, fluid change, and filter. $600 and 20 miles later, it bumped into limp mode again. Back to the trans shop. Next diagnosis: a re-build. Reluctantly, I approved it, and they claim they did find worn internal seals and clutches. Another $1900 and only 5, yes FIVE, miles later - BUMP - back 2 limp again. And back to the shop. Apparently the brand new TCM (control module) they replaced during the rebuild was defective. Now with the 2nd new TCM, I made it home this time - 20 miles - it's anyone's guess as to how much further before another BUMP. I am now paranoid to drive the car and even more reluctant to give it to my daughter - so she's getting my old Ford and I get this! It has now cost me almost $2000 more than its full retail value. My initial experience has been a NIGHTMARE! Let's see what happens now. By the way, only 46,000 miles on the odo! Unbelievable!!!
"Straight from the Lemon Tree"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
Where do I begin with problems?! The car needed a new PCM within months of owning it. Replaced that, then it promptly went out as soon as the warranty ran out (12 miles after the warranty died). Replaced PCM again and problems with idle racing on its own, car wouldn't start at times, it smoked, I couldn't keep brakes on the thing and worst of all---The transmission would shift itself out of drive into neutral while my family and I were traveling 60mph on the highway--Dangerous situation indeed! The car had major oil leaks, transmission leaks and whenever a part was needed, it cost out the tail. I actually drove the car into the dealership that I begged a trade in off of with the thing in its "limp" mode (where it was in drive, but it was in neutral as far as it going, Cirrus owners you know what I am talking about). Anyways.. Please reconsider something else like a dependable Buick or Chevrolet before buying a Cirrus. Please for your sake and the safety sake of your family.
"A waste of money"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
Transmission failure
Fuel pressure failure
O2 sensor failure
CPS sensor failure
ABS sensor failure.
General comments?
Like many other people, I had the same problem with the car dieing. It never happened frequently. No problems restarting afterwards.
My symptoms included rough idle, bouncing RPM, RPM gauge dropping to 0, and stuttering.
On a hot day (around 105F) was driving and the car suddenly dies. And would not restart. Checked everything and couldn't find anything wrong.
I had it towed and it sat at a shop for almost 2 days. I called and they said they couldn't figure it out and the diagnostics were good, didn't reveal anything wrong.
After doing some research on the net I called the mechanic back and told him some of the solutions other people have had with my same problem.
I told him about the Crankshaft Position Sensor and he called me back and said that was it. They wanted $150.00 for the part and another $50.00 for repair.
I called around and NAPA had the part for $45.00. I went to pick up the car and the mechanic wouldn't even tell me where the part was located cause I was going to put it in myself. So I sat in the parking lot and finally found it. It's on the backside of the transmission. I plugged it in, car fired right up. Flipped off the mechanic and peeled out of the lot.
Hopefully that will help some of you.
My car currently idles horribly and I'm having transmission issues _again_. Fuel filter has been replaced with a high quality one. Ran fine a few days now it runs even worse. New plugs, wires, distributor cap, and belts. Still same problems.
Took it to a transmission shop, cause I was more concerned about that than the idling. But the mechanic said the car runs so poor he can't even get the transmission to perform. So, I'm really wondering if the car is even worth it anymore. It has been parked for almost 2 months now.
This is the second Chrysler vehicle I have owned, both had similar problems. My old one blew a rod. I really love the car, but will not buy another Chrysler again.
"Fun to drive, not fun to maintain"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
I purchased this car along with an extended warranty from a local dealer. The extended warranty was certainly a good investment, as it paid for itself two or three times over during its 24,000-mile lifetime. During the 44,000 miles I've had this car, I have replaced:
O2 sensor
EGR sensor
camshaft position sensor
crankshaft position sensor
distributor
A/C compressor
A/C lines
A/C evaporator.
(and the usual: brakes, tires, oil, etc.)
Most recently I've been told that the timing belt needs to be replaced before it goes out and that Chrysler recommends replacement of the water pump while the timing belt is off. Seems reasonable from a mechanical standpoint, but the cost estimate from a local Chrysler dealer is $1100 + tax. If I have this work done, the total cost of the repairs I will have made to this vehicle is in excess of $8,000. Since I purchased it for $6995, this disappoints me greatly.
General comments?
When things are working well, I like the car quite well. It usually gets me from point A to B and back again.
The seats are comfortable for short distances, but uncomfortable for long car trips. Don't go from Florida to Alaska in this car.
Engine noise is very minimal.
A/C system does not do a very good job of cooling the car down. A dealer tells me that this is due to the "large amount of glass" in the Cirrus, but I have yet to come across passenger sedans with less glass.
This car is from the era when Chrysler and Mitsubishi partnered, and (as recently has been brought to light by the media) Mitsubishi is now acknowledging many serious design flaws in such vehicles as the Cirrus. The Chrysler dealer to which I have been taking this vehicle has seconded that opinion.
"It's great without the headaches that come with it"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
When I first purchased the car it was great, then the next week after the sensor light had to be fixed. A week after that the front ball joints had to be replaced and greased.
Then the car was fine until about a month later when I brought the car in to have the linkage belt replaced and three hoses under the vehicle. Everything went wrong about four months after that.
My ABS light keeps staying on constantly and I can be driving and everything is fine, and all of a sudden out of nowhere, the car will rev up high in between the 5 and 6 on my RPM gauge, and the car will start jolting as if I'm braking when really I'm not. After it does that, I cannot get past 60 miles per hour and I have to pull over and let the car sit for a while until I'm able to drive it again.
I took the car to a mechanic - they told me that my transmission was fine and that they don't see the problem, but yet they know that the car does what it does when the car is heated.
"My opinion of my car is that it is/was a lemon"
What things have gone wrong with the car?
I have had several major problems with this car. First, the ABS brakes go out and grind if you hit a bump and the brakes at the same time. Have had this checked at the dealer when the car was new several times, they could not find a problem.
Second, the electrical system goes out continuously. Sometimes when I start the car, there is no electrical power to anything including, but not limited to, the radio, air, heat, light panels and power steering.
Third, the air conditioning went up twice (luckily while still under warranty and Daimler was very pleasant and easy to deal with.)
Forth, I had a recall for some type of boot that goes into the wheel. I took the car to the dealer and they inspected it and said that it was fine. About 6 months later, I was driving in a community and this boot and rod thing (sorry, I'm not exactly sure what it is called) fell into my wheel well. My car was at that time out of warranty, but the manufacturer did pay for the parts (not the labor because I took it to a mechanic, not the dealer). My mechanic did tell me that I was lucky that I wasn't driving faster than 25 miles an hour because that could have caused a serious accident.
Lastly, the heat has never really worked correctly (including the fan) and it is currently not working at all.
"A beautiful piece of unreliable machinery."
What things have gone wrong with the car?
At 100,000 miles the transmission went out. Upon bringing the car to a mechanic, I was told that this transmission (which was put in several other cars manufactured by Daimler Chrysler) was notorious for going out. Was given an preliminary estimate of $1,200 to fix - it ended up costing $2,000 for a completely rebuilt transmission. The mechanic said it was too far gone to go any other route and it would be much more to replace it with a new one.
The factory CD player completely stops working from time to time. Sometimes it won't eject CD's. The radio changes stations spontaneously, and you can't make it stop. It's something internal -moving the dials doesn't help at all.
The leather on the seats is very hard and uncomfortable at best. It's definitely not a car to purchase if you're big on saving gas by not using the air conditioner. With these seats, an air conditioner on full blast is almost necessary.
Review
I love my car but there is always something else I have to change. My brakes get changed annually and the whole front end is replaced too. Now the damn thing won't start! There's always something to do
Favorite Features
when its running good it runs great!! I love it when it's all fixed
Suggested Improvements
brakes suck the transmission sucks and once i figure out what's wrong now i'll tell you about it
Review
The ball joints all had to be replaced, both tie rod ends, both front struts, rotors and pads, rack and pinion, drivers window regulator. But especially, hood rusted through at leading edge (saw this on many others). This all before 65,000. Was good car but had a high maintennce 'front end' (and ignition - wires and plugs). Was garaged and driven normally. Had the 98 Breeze before - same problems but it leaked oil by 30,000 miles to the tune of 1 quart a week. Am glad they stopped making it so I won't buy another.The Pretender
I'm going to rent myself a house
In the shade of the freeway
I'm going to pack my lunch in the morning
And go to work each day
And when the evening rolls around
I'll go on home and lay my body down
And when the morning light comes streaming in
I'll get up and do it again
Amen
Say it again
Amen
I want to know what became of the changes
We waited for love to bring
Were they only the fitful dreams
Of some greater awakening
Ive been aware of the time going by
They say in the end its the wink of an eye
And when the morning light comes streaming in
You'll get up and do it again
Amen
Caught between the longing for love
And the struggle for the legal tender
Where the sirens sing and the church bells ring
And the junk man pounds his fender
Where the veterans dream of the fight
Fast asleep at the traffic light
And the children solemnly wait
For the ice cream vendor
Out into the cool of the evening
Strolls the pretender
He knows that all his hopes and dreams
Begin and end there
Ah the laughter of the lovers
As they run through the night
Leaving nothing for the others
But to choose off and fight
And tear at the world with all their might
While the ships bearing their dreams
Sail out of sight
I'm going to find myself a girl
Who can show me what laughter means
And well fill in the missing colors
In each others paint-by-number dreams
And then well put out dark glasses on
And well make love until our strength is gone
And when the morning light comes streaming in
Well get up and do it again
Get it up again
I'm going to be a happy idiot
And struggle for the legal tender
Where the ads take aim and lay their claim
To the heart and the soul of the spender
And believe in whatever may lie
In those things that money can buy
Thought true love could have been a contender
Are you there?
Say a prayer for the pretender
Who started out so young and strong
Only to surrender
In the shade of the freeway
I'm going to pack my lunch in the morning
And go to work each day
And when the evening rolls around
I'll go on home and lay my body down
And when the morning light comes streaming in
I'll get up and do it again
Amen
Say it again
Amen
I want to know what became of the changes
We waited for love to bring
Were they only the fitful dreams
Of some greater awakening
Ive been aware of the time going by
They say in the end its the wink of an eye
And when the morning light comes streaming in
You'll get up and do it again
Amen
Caught between the longing for love
And the struggle for the legal tender
Where the sirens sing and the church bells ring
And the junk man pounds his fender
Where the veterans dream of the fight
Fast asleep at the traffic light
And the children solemnly wait
For the ice cream vendor
Out into the cool of the evening
Strolls the pretender
He knows that all his hopes and dreams
Begin and end there
Ah the laughter of the lovers
As they run through the night
Leaving nothing for the others
But to choose off and fight
And tear at the world with all their might
While the ships bearing their dreams
Sail out of sight
I'm going to find myself a girl
Who can show me what laughter means
And well fill in the missing colors
In each others paint-by-number dreams
And then well put out dark glasses on
And well make love until our strength is gone
And when the morning light comes streaming in
Well get up and do it again
Get it up again
I'm going to be a happy idiot
And struggle for the legal tender
Where the ads take aim and lay their claim
To the heart and the soul of the spender
And believe in whatever may lie
In those things that money can buy
Thought true love could have been a contender
Are you there?
Say a prayer for the pretender
Who started out so young and strong
Only to surrender
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center can be found at
http://www.healthymarriageinfo.org
http://www.healthymarriageinfo.org
Pa...I'm worried about the children
Co-parenting is a process divorced, separated or never-married parents can use to avoid putting children in the middle. It’s not easy for couples with children to divorce amicably, given the sense of loss and ready potential for anger, resentment, disappointment and pain. Parents can be tempted to use their kids as precious but effective weapons to control the other parent’s access to the children or their financial support. Children can be pumped for information about the ‘other’ parent or witness to disparaging adult interchanges. This kind of behavior puts children at greater risk and may add to the burden that many children of divorce already face.
Resources
Resources
American Coalition for Fathers & Children
Bay Area Male Involvement Project
Capitol Region of Conference of Churches
Career Resources Inc.
Center on Fathers, Families, and Public Policy
Children, Youth and Family Consortium
CT Department of Social Services
Connecticut Clearinghouse
Dictionary for Dads
DSS/Child Support Resource Center
American Public Human Services Association
Families in Crisis, Inc.
Family Strides Inc.
GreatkidsCT
Illinois Council on Responsible Fatherhood (ICRF)
Institute for Responsible Fatherhood and Family Revitalization
Iowa State University Extension
CT Judicial Branch, Child support Frequently Asked Questions
Madonna Place Inc.
National Center for Children in Poverty
National Fatherhood Initiative
National Fathers' Network
National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
National Partnership for Women and Families
National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse
Real Dads Forever
United Way of Connecticut
I Contacted The Fatherhood Initiative Of Connecticut For Help
"Nothing has a stronger influence on the children, than the lives of their parents."
Carl Jung
Carl Jung
http://www.fatherhoodinitiative.state.ct.us is the website I follow from the State of Ct for fathers, and it says...fathers that are involved with their daughters do better in math, verbal skills and have higher I.Q.'s in school, so what's that tell you? Teach, Inspire, and Love...
www.fatherhood.org (national)
fatherhood.hhs.gov ( u.s. dept of human services)
Our Core Values are:
Respect for self & others:
Promoting actions and behaviors that convey a willingness to listen to, communicate with and treat others with compassion, consideration and appreciation. Engaging in action and behaviors that reflect one's own humanity, strengths, and values as a person.
Giving help that feels like help:
Engaging in all interactions, internal and external to the Department of Social Services, with demeanor, attitude and action that gives help to people that feels like help to them. Consulting with people to find out their view of the problem or issue and identifying what needs to be done from their perspective.
Competence:
Mastering, using and expanding the skills, knowledge and abilities needed to perform assigned duties and meet articulated functions.
Accountability:
Within the framework of the Department of Social Services parameters, insuring that actions, decisions and behaviors reflect a first line responsibility to those individuals and families who receive services from our Department.
Managing Diversity:
Encouraging actions and activities that, in the day-to-day functioning of the Department of Social Services, respect and include contributions that speak to differences based on race, gender, ability, age, culture and sexual orientation. Expanding efforts and activities to provide staff with learning opportunities that facilitate an understanding of practices, which may disadvantage groups, based on race, culture, language, age, ability or sexual orientation.
Inspiring Public Confidence:
Engaging in proactive behaviors and activities that demonstrate the value and positive impact of the work we do. Presenting a persona that resonates confidence in yourself and in the Department of Social Services.
Our Goals & Values are:
Our Goals
The goal of the John S. Martinez Fatherhood Initiative of Connecticut is to promote the positive involvement and interaction of fathers with their children, with an emphasis on children eligible, or formerly eligible for services funded by the temporary assistance for needy families block grant. Additionally, the Fatherhood Initiative shall identify those services that effectively encourage and enhance responsible and skillful parenting, and those services that increase the ability of fathers to meet the financial and medical needs of their children through employment services and child support enforcement measures.
(PA 99-193)
Our Objectives
1) To promote public education concerning the financial and emotional responsibilities of fatherhood;
2) To assist men in preparation for the legal, financial and emotional responsibilities of fatherhood;
3) To promote the establishment of paternity at childbirth;
4) To encourage fathers, regardless of marital status, to foster
their emotional connection to and financial support of their children;
5) To establish support mechanisms for fathers in their relationship with their children,
regardless of their marital and financial status; and
6) To integrate state and local services available for families.
CO-PARENTING
Father’s Day: time to acknowledge the unique and irreplaceable contribution dads make to their children’s lives. Fathering is, of course, a year-round job, but unfortunately, changing family dynamics following a divorce often negatively affect the access or tools fathers need to stay fully involved with their families and children. To stem this paternal drift, and its negative consequences for both children and fathers, "co-parenting" can help keep both parents involved in a healthy, supportive partnership.
Co-parenting is a process divorced, separated or never-married parents can use to avoid putting children in the middle. It’s not easy for couples with children to divorce amicably, given the sense of loss and ready potential for anger, resentment, disappointment and pain. Parents can be tempted to use their kids as precious but effective weapons to control the other parent’s access to the children or their financial support. Children can be pumped for information about the ‘other’ parent or witness to disparaging adult interchanges. This kind of behavior puts children at greater risk and may add to the burden that many children of divorce already face.
Parents can avoid some of these pitfalls by concentrating again, as they probably once did, on the needs of their children and the partnership they formed with their former spouse to meet those needs. Research shows cooperative parenting 1) reduces the levels of stress that reverberate through the entire family system, and 2) reduces the conflicting communication that hurts the child stuck in the middle as go-between. The science is unambiguous: children benefit from having a positive and supportive relationship with both parents. Achieving that healthy balance requires sensitivity and some technical savvy.
Do not use your child to hurt the other parent. Resist the temptation to have your child deliver hurtful or manipulative information or to "spy on" the other parent. In the same respect, don’t deny the other parent access to your child as a means to "lash out," or as a strategy to obtain other things from him or her such as more money, child care, or transportation services.
Communicate with your child’s other parent in a positive way. Avoid blaming the other parent for troubles your child may experience, or for the inevitable difficulties, social or academic he or she may encounter in school. Instead focus on the problem at hand and how, together, you both can work to solve it.
Avoid bringing up the past. No matter how tempting, it is guaranteed counterproductive to dredge up ancient pain - - it only serves to cloud current problems, and their solution. Often a parent is tempted to say, "if you hadn’t left us, we wouldn’t be in this mess, or "if you had only done X five years ago, Johnny would be different now." That kind of antagonism does not help in the present, it only causes pain and renewed anger for everyone, and make the child feel guilty.
Encourage your child’s relationship with the other parent. Encourage him or her to spend time with, and rely on, the other parent. Avoid capitalizing on your child’s activities, sports and hobbies as excuses to lessen time with the other parent. Similarly, do not withhold phone calls to your child from the other parent. It will most assuredly backfire as a control technique.
Communicate generously about the events in your child’s life. This includes sharing information about doctor’s appointments, school schedules, social events, day care schedules and extra- curricular activities. Remember, the ultimate beneficiary is your child. He or she needs the support of an informed mother and father.
Find common ground, especially around discipline. Make it your business to find out what’s being imposed, reinforced and why. Provide as common a front as possible so the child understands that the consequences of his actions will carry over to each household. They are for his benefit, not the households’.
Co-parenting is far more than a "grin and bare it" response to a difficult situation. It’s your best opportunity to show your child that you each care deeply enough about him to put aside your differences. That’s a critical life lesson for everyone involved. After all, it’s how you’d like to see your grandchildren parented, right?
So, happy Father’s Day, dads. And moms, support his place in the shared life of your kids. The courts can force compliance, but they can’t mandate love, sacrifice or genuine participation.
Kyle D. Pruett, M.D.
Dr. Pruett is a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Yale Child Study Center, an active member of the Connecticut Fatherhood Advisory Council, and author of the award winning book: Fatherneed (Free Press, 2000) and several other fatherhood-related publications. Dr. Pruett has been active nationally in the Zero to Three: Center for Infants, Toddlers and Their Families, is a former Good Housekeeping columnist, host of the Lifetime television series "Your Child Six to Twelve", an editorial advisor to Child Magazine, and a frequent guest on Oprah.
Super artist in Ireland
Street Artist...new stuff
Edgar Mueller Super Artist Great Crevase Edgar Mueller. Hard work: Together with up to five assistants, Mueller painted all day long from sunrise to sunset. The picture appeared on the East Pier in Dun Laoghaire , Ireland , as part of the town's Festival of World Cultures He spent five days, working 12 hours a day, to create the 250 square metre image of the crevasse, which, viewed from the correct angle, appears to be 3D. He then persuaded passers-by to complete the illusion by pretending the gaping hole was real. 'I wanted to play with positives and negatives to encourage people to think twice about everything they see,' he said. 'It was a very scary scene, but when people saw it they had great fun playing on it and pretending to fall into the earth. 'I like to think that later, when they returned home, they might reflect more on what a frightening scenario it was and say, "Wow, that was actually pretty scary".' Mueller, who has previously painted a giant waterfall in Canada , said he was inspired by the British 'Pavement Picasso' Julian Beever, whose dramatic but more gentle 3D street images have featured in the Daily Mail. This guy is amazing no matter how you look at it! |
A pictures worth a thousand words except for these
Click on each picture to read the story about wealth, success, and love...there is a moral at the end.
Were all just taller children
I heard a song today by Elizabeth and the Catapult called "Taller Children" and she's a great artist with a debut great song. I found only this video (my girls should like this vid and song too) but you can hear the song at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGlZGG55GWE so far 90,000 people have heard it so far.
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
To My First Daughter Drew Kat - This Is Our Family - This Is Our History Together - Never Forget It Please
The Danbury Fair together
Dad's first paint job
Our beautiful Wedding Day
My wife made this castle
Oh this is Love and a bond that I cannot explain
The woman I impregnated to create Drew katarina
Yo, this is going out to my "home-boy" Kevin who I love
Thank you Kevin for bringing me and sydney into this country
Mummy making dinner (shepard's Pie) for her crew
Daddy...how am I possin?
Drew, follow me
Wow, Im loving divorce life
We love you Dadday
Working together with my husband on the big dog's
Honey, what do you think about our christmas?
Can we both go for a ride on your bike?
I handcuffed him, he's harmless
I love you darling
Cheese...Kevin, We've all been to NYC together but this timei get to go on the "train"
life doesn't get better than this
Daddy, look at our bikes and you bought them and fixed them for us
We have the music in us just like you Dad
You lookin at "me" Punk?
Daddy & Drew drawed this together
Daddy, I want tot play guitar like you
OH my goodness, what have I done?Let me check my pulse to make sure I'm still a "born again" christian
Our moments together as a family were and still are "PRICELESS"and nothing meant more to me than this and the love we all shared "TOGETHER"
Once a "family" is created it becomes the one bond you share for life...
Drew Kat, I love your Mum more than you know and have always loved her and want nothing more than us all to get back together and have a beautiful family again. Thats all I've ever wanted and have said for all this time. And to my precious 3 darling Angels...I want you all to know, that you don't know how much this meant and means to me...our family, and what we had together. I regret every single day that we are apart and not together. as the family we once had. Daddy has learned and changed so much now and my Darling Drew Kat, this is our family history togehter...and I miss it so much, and know you miss it, and I know Tyler misses it too. and your Mum too.
I want you to know Drew & Tyler that I still love your mother and so this is to you...your my first daughter Drew Katarina. Sweety I want you to know I would give anything to have this back again...you, tyler, and your mom back in my life 24/7 again. Nothing else is more important than that in my life...nothing!!!
Honey, I love you with all my heart and there isn't a Dad or Father that loves a daughter more than your Daddy loves you. Your birthday is coming up and my hands are tied and don't know what to do. I want to see you like I did and tried on Ty's birthday but I have to be very careful not to have any contact with your mother. This unfortunately is because of your Mom's doing and not mine, and I regret this very much.
All I want is to see you, and your sister of course and celebrate your birthday and be a part of it...what father with a daughter like you wouldn't ? So my darling know I am trying to figure this situation out everyday, and its a shame the legal system has been in your life all this time, as it has done nothing but hurt you, me, and Tyler Rose. If you have any suggestions email me and I will do whatever you think is best for us...right now. You and Ty are on my mind everyday, and I want nothing more than to be with "my girls" again like you need me too and expect me too.
We have alot of history together, you, me, mum, and tyler so don't forget it and here's a reminder. We used to (your Mum & Me) take you to the park in Fairfield and Trumbull and Stratford, and Milford. You had the best house and backyard in the world too, with a swing set and a pool. I miss you Drew, miss you Tyler and your mum more than anything and hope we can be together again and work everything out finally.
I want you to know Drew & Tyler that I still love your mother and so this is to you...your my first daughter Drew Katarina. Sweety I want you to know I would give anything to have this back again...you, tyler, and your mom back in my life 24/7 again. Nothing else is more important than that in my life...nothing!!!
Honey, I love you with all my heart and there isn't a Dad or Father that loves a daughter more than your Daddy loves you. Your birthday is coming up and my hands are tied and don't know what to do. I want to see you like I did and tried on Ty's birthday but I have to be very careful not to have any contact with your mother. This unfortunately is because of your Mom's doing and not mine, and I regret this very much.
All I want is to see you, and your sister of course and celebrate your birthday and be a part of it...what father with a daughter like you wouldn't ? So my darling know I am trying to figure this situation out everyday, and its a shame the legal system has been in your life all this time, as it has done nothing but hurt you, me, and Tyler Rose. If you have any suggestions email me and I will do whatever you think is best for us...right now. You and Ty are on my mind everyday, and I want nothing more than to be with "my girls" again like you need me too and expect me too.
We have alot of history together, you, me, mum, and tyler so don't forget it and here's a reminder. We used to (your Mum & Me) take you to the park in Fairfield and Trumbull and Stratford, and Milford. You had the best house and backyard in the world too, with a swing set and a pool. I miss you Drew, miss you Tyler and your mum more than anything and hope we can be together again and work everything out finally.
This Tornado Loves You, what will make you believe me?
I still love and miss my wife and my kids with all my heart and just want us to be a family again. I will keep trying to swoon her back as she said she wanted me too. I just want the woman, my one and only true love, who said she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me...and just wanted "me" as "me" to work everything out and communicate all thats happened and why for my Daddie Girl daughters who just want me and need me in their life too. I'll just keep waiting and trying...because I will never give up on my girls, or for my girls. Theirs the Italian fest in Westport this weekend for them to enjoy, plus lots of things we all loved to do as a family in Milford, especially Silver Sands, and theirs alot of great places in Middletown (another old stomping ground of mine) and Hamden and New Haven that I want to take them too. I've never had true love and its not worth giving up on, especially when I have two children that want and need a full time Father in their lives, and need to learn and see them show nothing but love toward their mother, and know that I love her growing up. That is the best thing a child can receive and "see" growing up - there two parents working together for their well being and know everyone loves everyone because there is nothing that can replace a family bond. This song is for them.
My love, I am the speed of sound
I left them motherless, fatherless
Their souls they hang inside-out from their mouths
But it's never enough
I want you
Carved your name across three counties
Ground it in with bloody hides
Their broken necks will line the ditch
'til you stop it, stop it
Stop this madness
I want you
I have waited with a glacier's patience
Smashed every transformer with every trailer
'til nothing was standing
65 miles wide
Still you are nowhere
Still you are nowhere
Nowhere in sight
Come out to meet me
Run out to meet me
Come in to the light
Climb the boxcars to the engine through the smoke into the sky
Your rails have always outrun mine
So I pick them up and crash them down
In a moment close to now
Cuz I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss
I miss how you'd sigh yourself to sleep
When I raked the springtime across your sheets
My love, I am the speed of sound
I left them motherless, fatherless
Their souls they hang inside-out from their mouths
But it's never enough
My love
I'm an owl on the sill in the evening
But morning finds you
Still warm and breathing
This tornado loves you
What will make you believe me?
This tornado loves you
What will make you believe me?
I left them motherless, fatherless
Their souls they hang inside-out from their mouths
But it's never enough
I want you
Carved your name across three counties
Ground it in with bloody hides
Their broken necks will line the ditch
'til you stop it, stop it
Stop this madness
I want you
I have waited with a glacier's patience
Smashed every transformer with every trailer
'til nothing was standing
65 miles wide
Still you are nowhere
Still you are nowhere
Nowhere in sight
Come out to meet me
Run out to meet me
Come in to the light
Climb the boxcars to the engine through the smoke into the sky
Your rails have always outrun mine
So I pick them up and crash them down
In a moment close to now
Cuz I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss, I miss
I miss how you'd sigh yourself to sleep
When I raked the springtime across your sheets
My love, I am the speed of sound
I left them motherless, fatherless
Their souls they hang inside-out from their mouths
But it's never enough
My love
I'm an owl on the sill in the evening
But morning finds you
Still warm and breathing
This tornado loves you
What will make you believe me?
This tornado loves you
What will make you believe me?
Monday, July 6, 2009
Its not what you know, its who you know
My neighbor's cousin is Plant Director of the Masonic home in Newtown. Its hard to get in but this guy is the guy who say's "that's who I want". I just applied for a position (heard tonight thru the grapevine that is going to be available tomorrow). Its really being on call for the nurses whenever they need mechanical and technical assistance. Here's the Benni's...as this is a year round dependable position with benefits, as with landscaping I will be laid off in the winter, or in only 3 more months...so I'm looking. I can't even get into S&S deli at nights part-time because it is all minority. There's not one white guy that works there...But I have to do all I can for my GIRLS, and one thing they all know about me by now is...I'm not a quitter, I don't give up, or get discouraged, perseverance builds character so I stay determined to accomplish my goals no matter how long it takes...and I don't don't loose faith or my motivation. I stay true to my direction...which is my family. Call it loyalty, call it devotion...but that's how i feel regardless of any outside or external sources influence. The more I fail or fall down or get set back, only makes me more determined and want to succeed. Thats "my" Navy character when I'm on a mission.
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It makes no sense at Tall
I really wish my x & I could get on the same page finally and try again, start over, do it right this time. I don't want anyone really but her, and don't want anyone but my girls. I wish she and the girls realized it by now. I hear alot of couples that divorced getting back together again, and even remarrying each other. You wise up, admit if you were wrong, you mature and realize whats important and whats not. You learn above all else. Its never to late to say your sorry. And I think a couple could realize after the fact, what went wrong or what needed to be done in the first place. Only the kids suffer really...not the parents.
I honestly have to say now...I adored my wife and kids with all my heart but didn't know how to show it and needed to work on some things to...priorities, etc. and took things for granted. and business first. But who knows now, maybe she has the nest finally built and waiting like she always wanted to do, and she said she wanted me to swoon her back too, and now I finally have my shite together. I still have hope. I have no ego, no one to impress, just be myself and I don't care what anyone else thinks, and have nothing to prove to anyone except to my x and darlings. The rest of the world can go suck on an egg. I know in my heart how I feel and have felt all this time (no matter whats happened) and I don't need the brain talking my heart out of the way it still feels. I still follow my heart and would never hurt my family again. I also needed to quit smoking and take blood pressure medication to finally feel relaxed.
When you love someone "unconditionally" it means as they are with nothing interfering, or without judgment. Judging is a bad thing. Beauty is only skin deep, then comes your personality, but the bottom line is your character. So I'm still waiting, hoping, and praying for that miracle for me and the girls that Mommy will come back and try again so we can be a family, the one the girls and me and her always wanted us to be. She said after the separation - "all we wanted was you"...meaning that's all they wanted was me...and now with more self control than the Pope...it not a problem anymore. It would be so much better to save and fix our relationship (which happens to almost everyone at 5 years) knowing how much we loved each other and I loved being a husband and father....that's all I want - my family back. I love my girls more than anything in this world...always have, and always will...its a given. If I'm all "they wanted" ? They are all I've "wanted" too.
I honestly have to say now...I adored my wife and kids with all my heart but didn't know how to show it and needed to work on some things to...priorities, etc. and took things for granted. and business first. But who knows now, maybe she has the nest finally built and waiting like she always wanted to do, and she said she wanted me to swoon her back too, and now I finally have my shite together. I still have hope. I have no ego, no one to impress, just be myself and I don't care what anyone else thinks, and have nothing to prove to anyone except to my x and darlings. The rest of the world can go suck on an egg. I know in my heart how I feel and have felt all this time (no matter whats happened) and I don't need the brain talking my heart out of the way it still feels. I still follow my heart and would never hurt my family again. I also needed to quit smoking and take blood pressure medication to finally feel relaxed.
When you love someone "unconditionally" it means as they are with nothing interfering, or without judgment. Judging is a bad thing. Beauty is only skin deep, then comes your personality, but the bottom line is your character. So I'm still waiting, hoping, and praying for that miracle for me and the girls that Mommy will come back and try again so we can be a family, the one the girls and me and her always wanted us to be. She said after the separation - "all we wanted was you"...meaning that's all they wanted was me...and now with more self control than the Pope...it not a problem anymore. It would be so much better to save and fix our relationship (which happens to almost everyone at 5 years) knowing how much we loved each other and I loved being a husband and father....that's all I want - my family back. I love my girls more than anything in this world...always have, and always will...its a given. If I'm all "they wanted" ? They are all I've "wanted" too.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
The Voices Of Glory - A must see video if you don't cry
Be Proud Of Your Children...they will amaze you
It Getting Pretty Bad Around Here
These are pics discovered in a Brownie Camera 68 years later of Pearl Harbor. My Dad was there.
Everyday it seems to get worse and worse. The stock market drops 200 points almost every day. No one is out, the Post Rd is dead, stores, shops, etc...empty. Retail space everywhere. Someone I know who has been at Fairfield University for 18 years just got laid-off and the department eliminated. Its the worst I've ever seen it. No party's anywhere today...no one out, everyone is just staying home and not spending money. I have major car repairs and no means to fix it. Its gloom and doom everywhere I go and with everyone I see...people are getting really depressed these days too around here. Even the fireworks were 15 minutes because the towns have no money.
So much tax is taken out of my check...the only one who makes out is the government and the politicians who don't even look at their bills, someone does it for them. It just doesn't make sense any more struggling like this and getting nowhere...I hope my girls are good and doing ok, its a shame I can't have any contact with the x...they probably could use some help too. We probably shouldn't have gotten divorced.
When you get older you realize that the government only hurts us and doesn't help us, same with the courts and laws...America isn't the land of the free...its the land of the taxed, and only the minorities and illegal aliens have it good here now while we suffer at their expense. This country "sucks". Its probably time to leave and go to Europe...
Unless you can just be oblivious to everything or not give a rats ass...everyone is afraid of getting laid off, and all our work dried up too. The economy is bad and only getting worse regardless of what the propaganda in the news says. Car sales were up in June because the car dealers closing were giving them away. 10 Post offices are closing in the area...whats that tell you, people are getting their hours cut from 40 to 32 or less, whats that tell ya. Their are no bands, clubs, or music places around either, people can't afford to go out anymore. But I suppose it could be worse, we could have been in this...
V.P. Biden said today - "They misread the economy, they didn't realize it was this bad", well where have you and Obama been hiding, or are politicians that out of touch because they don't live the average American lifestyle.
Remember - The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life.
James L. Christensen
Everyday it seems to get worse and worse. The stock market drops 200 points almost every day. No one is out, the Post Rd is dead, stores, shops, etc...empty. Retail space everywhere. Someone I know who has been at Fairfield University for 18 years just got laid-off and the department eliminated. Its the worst I've ever seen it. No party's anywhere today...no one out, everyone is just staying home and not spending money. I have major car repairs and no means to fix it. Its gloom and doom everywhere I go and with everyone I see...people are getting really depressed these days too around here. Even the fireworks were 15 minutes because the towns have no money.
So much tax is taken out of my check...the only one who makes out is the government and the politicians who don't even look at their bills, someone does it for them. It just doesn't make sense any more struggling like this and getting nowhere...I hope my girls are good and doing ok, its a shame I can't have any contact with the x...they probably could use some help too. We probably shouldn't have gotten divorced.
When you get older you realize that the government only hurts us and doesn't help us, same with the courts and laws...America isn't the land of the free...its the land of the taxed, and only the minorities and illegal aliens have it good here now while we suffer at their expense. This country "sucks". Its probably time to leave and go to Europe...
Unless you can just be oblivious to everything or not give a rats ass...everyone is afraid of getting laid off, and all our work dried up too. The economy is bad and only getting worse regardless of what the propaganda in the news says. Car sales were up in June because the car dealers closing were giving them away. 10 Post offices are closing in the area...whats that tell you, people are getting their hours cut from 40 to 32 or less, whats that tell ya. Their are no bands, clubs, or music places around either, people can't afford to go out anymore. But I suppose it could be worse, we could have been in this...
V.P. Biden said today - "They misread the economy, they didn't realize it was this bad", well where have you and Obama been hiding, or are politicians that out of touch because they don't live the average American lifestyle.
But it wasn't chance at Pearl Harbor. Japanese dignitaries were visiting Washington that week andasked us as a sign of trust to lower their guard of Pearl Harbor only the day before.
Remember - The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life.
James L. Christensen
Publish Post
Divorce American Style & One American Dad
Where me and the girls used to play
Daddy loves u girlsWow, the number of woman I have talked to that all say, no matter how bad the divorce, was I would never keep the kids from their Dad. I've also heard how brutal these divorces are getting these days. Guys not giving their wives anything and running off or cheating with younger women.
Wives making all sorts of false allegations against their husbands, and the courts believing it without any proof. Most woman say they would go nuts if they couldn't see their children...how "horrible" I think is the word they all say...the question is "why" and the failure of the legal system to just decide to always side with the woman and not keep the laws fair and balanced 50/50.
Its a shame that divorce is so common and probably why this world and country is getting so screwed up. And as I mentioned previously, teachers wont even bring up "fathers" in the classrooms because so many children today "don't" have Dad's anymore. How is this going to affect children when they are teens, as my daughters futures are only going to become worse than they are today, not learning things should be fixed - and not discarded. How are they going to go to college? My friend has to pay $2600 a month for one college tuition. Parents need to be saving "now" for their future...not living paycheck to paycheck.
Loyalty, devotion, dedication, faithfulness, ethics, morals and character are deteriorating in our society, as well as trust and honesty...and truth. Very discouraging how bad this country is becoming...nothing is sacred anymore, just lies, bullshit, and struggles. Very disheartening to say the least. It is the primary role of the parents "together" to create this balance for their kids...
I should have been watching the fireworks last night with my daughters instead of dating, and having a wonderful BBQ with them at the beach today or on the boat. The x and I should be communicating frequently as well for our daughters. How do you go to sleep at night without even having a conscience or feeling justified in these types of actions ? Or not do at least what God wants for his children...the right things.
Protective orders are ridiculous too and only do more damage in ruining relationships that should be dealt with in a healthy manner not a dysfunctional one...which the courts actual promote by only hindering communication. The law and courts need to promote more and not prevent, in a positive forward direction with counseling and intermediaries that can act as a liaison between two people with difference.
Wives making all sorts of false allegations against their husbands, and the courts believing it without any proof. Most woman say they would go nuts if they couldn't see their children...how "horrible" I think is the word they all say...the question is "why" and the failure of the legal system to just decide to always side with the woman and not keep the laws fair and balanced 50/50.
Its a shame that divorce is so common and probably why this world and country is getting so screwed up. And as I mentioned previously, teachers wont even bring up "fathers" in the classrooms because so many children today "don't" have Dad's anymore. How is this going to affect children when they are teens, as my daughters futures are only going to become worse than they are today, not learning things should be fixed - and not discarded. How are they going to go to college? My friend has to pay $2600 a month for one college tuition. Parents need to be saving "now" for their future...not living paycheck to paycheck.
Loyalty, devotion, dedication, faithfulness, ethics, morals and character are deteriorating in our society, as well as trust and honesty...and truth. Very discouraging how bad this country is becoming...nothing is sacred anymore, just lies, bullshit, and struggles. Very disheartening to say the least. It is the primary role of the parents "together" to create this balance for their kids...
I should have been watching the fireworks last night with my daughters instead of dating, and having a wonderful BBQ with them at the beach today or on the boat. The x and I should be communicating frequently as well for our daughters. How do you go to sleep at night without even having a conscience or feeling justified in these types of actions ? Or not do at least what God wants for his children...the right things.
Protective orders are ridiculous too and only do more damage in ruining relationships that should be dealt with in a healthy manner not a dysfunctional one...which the courts actual promote by only hindering communication. The law and courts need to promote more and not prevent, in a positive forward direction with counseling and intermediaries that can act as a liaison between two people with difference.
Friday, July 3, 2009
Colonoscopy
Colonoscopy
All the organs of the body were having a meeting, trying to decide who was the one in charge.
'I should be in charge,' said the brain , 'Because I run all the body's systems, so without me nothing would happen.'
'I should be in charge,' said the blood, 'Because I circulate oxygen all over so without me you'd all waste away.'
'I should be in charge,' said the stomach,' Because I process food and give all of you energy.'
'I should be in charge,' said the legs , 'because I carry the body wherever it needs to go..'
'I should be in charge,' said the eyes, 'Because I allow the body to see where it goes.'
'I should be in charge,' said the rectum , 'Because I'm responsible for waste removal.'
All the other body parts laughed at the rectum and insulted him, so in a huff, he shut down tight. Within a few days, the brain had a terrible headache, the stomach was bloated, the legs got wobbly, the eyes got watery, and the blood Was toxic. They all decided that the rectum should be the boss...
The Moral of the story?
Even though the others do all the work...
The asshole is usually in charge
'I should be in charge,' said the brain , 'Because I run all the body's systems, so without me nothing would happen.'
'I should be in charge,' said the blood, 'Because I circulate oxygen all over so without me you'd all waste away.'
'I should be in charge,' said the stomach,' Because I process food and give all of you energy.'
'I should be in charge,' said the legs , 'because I carry the body wherever it needs to go..'
'I should be in charge,' said the eyes, 'Because I allow the body to see where it goes.'
'I should be in charge,' said the rectum , 'Because I'm responsible for waste removal.'
All the other body parts laughed at the rectum and insulted him, so in a huff, he shut down tight. Within a few days, the brain had a terrible headache, the stomach was bloated, the legs got wobbly, the eyes got watery, and the blood Was toxic. They all decided that the rectum should be the boss...
The Moral of the story?
Even though the others do all the work...
The asshole is usually in charge
A Crack In My Windscreen
I'm driving along on the highway at 60 miles an hour (the speed limit),
minding my own business,
when outta nowhere there's
minding my own business,
when outta nowhere there's
this big crack in my windshield!!
I swerved right,
and then left,
and it was still right there!!
I swerved right,
and then left,
and it was still right there!!
There just ain't NO words for this!
My One Wish Tonight Was...
My one wish tonight is that I could be watching the fireworks with my "girls". I never watched fireworks before with them and wonder so much what their reaction would be, with both of them sitting in my lap to protect them from the loud "boom". In any case, I hope they enjoyed them with their Mum tonight.
Another date tonight
My girlfriend, the one I posted previously (pictured above) wants to get serious, get married, and have kids. I don't know if I can do that as there is only one woman I want to be married too. So, I told her I need to go slow, date, and see if that's what I want.So I decided to date this little cutie (pictured below) for happy hour in downtown Westport. Then its go home and change, and get ready for the fireworks tonight together and what ever else happens. The last time I saw fireworks was when I took my ex out on our boat for fireworks, that's unfortunately the last fireworks I can really remember.
So I have to tell you, (with dating) alot of woman want either sex or marriage...like its all or nothing. It scares me because its just to easy these days...and no one stays faithful or loyal to each other. Looks are only "skin deep", and it's "character" that matters, not appearance or personality...its what you can take to the bank at the end of the day. And this ones a real hunny but the words "I adore you" is just another word I can't or don't use anymore like the "L" word. I just can't for anyone else...why I wonder? I truly believed in someone once with my heart and soul...believed her every word as trust and truth, and that is a fear of mine now with someone else. Do women really lie to their spouses?
Pruning For Power
Alittle to close for comfort, just alittle. I've been pruning pines all day that are growing near the power lines, "Great".
Ok, lets see, I have a pole and if it accidentally touches those lines, I'm toast. And if my 20 ft. aluminum ladder touches those lines I'm toast. If I fall, I'm toast. Why do I feel like I'm gonna cook something with just the wrong move.
Ok, lets see, I have a pole and if it accidentally touches those lines, I'm toast. And if my 20 ft. aluminum ladder touches those lines I'm toast. If I fall, I'm toast. Why do I feel like I'm gonna cook something with just the wrong move.
Do men just wan't woman that need to be rescued?
The Female: I would want a man with his stuff together as an equal just as I am. Do men only want women that need to be rescued emotionally and financially, like they need to be fixed? Being independent and not just needy is a good thing in my mind. I know men need to feel needed but to what extent? In my common sense thinking, I would imagine a man would want an independent woman that works hard as I do. Another thing is that I always felt that its a plus that I don't have kids. Men do not prefer women with kids thats why they cheat, to get away from the motherhood like experiences. 
The Male: I think there are some emotions that tie men to women whom need help. I dont think men necessarily go looking for the woman in distress. And typically the women that turn out to be head cases that need constant "saving" become too burdensome and men try to dump them just to get away.
It's hard to explain but I do think it's in men's natural makeup to take care of a woman. And there's a strong emotional bond that forms when a man does that. It's kind of twisted, especially when women take advantage of it and ride that poor boy for all he's worth.
As for women with kids, I would guess the majority of men would prefer not to deal with another man's children.
Now Guys...Here's 5 ways to keep them happy
The Male: I think there are some emotions that tie men to women whom need help. I dont think men necessarily go looking for the woman in distress. And typically the women that turn out to be head cases that need constant "saving" become too burdensome and men try to dump them just to get away.
It's hard to explain but I do think it's in men's natural makeup to take care of a woman. And there's a strong emotional bond that forms when a man does that. It's kind of twisted, especially when women take advantage of it and ride that poor boy for all he's worth.
As for women with kids, I would guess the majority of men would prefer not to deal with another man's children.
Now Guys...Here's 5 ways to keep them happy
1) Women Want You to Listen Up
In general, women complain that men don’t listen to them. In your defense, you listened to her the first time as well as the 21st time she aired her concern, but she continues to mull it over and discuss some possibilities. She carries on about her overbearing and unfair boss, so you suggest quitting her job.
Guys, admit it: A lot of you are “fixers.” You listen to a problem for three minutes before you offer up a suggestion. Why? You want your girlfriend, wife or friend to be happy, so you provide a solution to the problem.
It may seem contradictory, but women don’t necessarily want an answer or a solution. They actually want you to act as their sounding board. Instead, listen patiently and let her work through it, offering advice when prompted.
2) Women Want to Be Taken Seriously
The fact that women want to be taken seriously is closely linked to point #1. Not only do women want to be listened to, they want their problems, thoughts and feelings to be taken seriously.
3) Women Want to Be Considered
When You’re Making Plans Amid the poker games, guys’ nights out and work, women want to be considered when you’re making plans. (Wouldn’t you?) Women don’t necessarily need to be THE priority − they just don’t want to be an afterthought. Whether you are a workaholic, gamer, sportsman or couch potato, let your sweetheart in on the action. Sometimes it’s easy to let everything else get in the way, but if you make her feel important and needed, she will make you and your needs just as significant as you make her.
4) Women Want to Be Adored
Women love to feel adored. Honored as the most beautiful gal in the room, she wants you to positively love what she is all about. So maybe there are smarter, more attractive or more successful women out there, but to you, she is the bee’s knees. Your esteemed ladylove wants to feel that you are fortunate to have her, that you can’t keep from beaming when you see her or even that she makes your life better for being in it. Feeling your devotion will only encourage her to reciprocate and feel lucky herself for garnering such a good man.
5) Women Want Acknowledgment and Appreciation
Women want you to acknowledge the things they do for you. They want more than just a pat on the back: They want to be appreciated for their efforts. No matter what her role in your life, whether it’s making plans, fixing up the house or booking dream vacations, she wants you to be happy.
Try to meet her halfway with proactive measures or at least offer some sort of recognition or acknowledgment. A little goes a long way with your female counterpart, so take notice and compliment her on her attention to detail.
The Face & The Angel
I watch the sky and clouds all day working outside, what direction they are heading etc, for the weather just like being on a ship. Today I saw something very strange and took a picture, it looks like an angel and a face. I contacted the Steve Wilkos show yesterday to ask for his help getting my family back, or my family on his show and he responded and asked for phone numbers and addresses...which was really cool. Now we wait.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
LK, DK, TK
THIS IS ALL I KNOW...
YOU ARE, ALWAYS HAVE BEEN,
AND ALWAYS WILL BE...
MY PRIDE & JOY...
NOTHING LESS,
NOTHING MORE
THAN WHATS IN MY HEART
YOU ARE, ALWAYS HAVE BEEN,
AND ALWAYS WILL BE...
MY PRIDE & JOY...
NOTHING LESS,
NOTHING MORE
THAN WHATS IN MY HEART
Well you've heard about love givin sight to the blind
My baby's lovin cause the sun to shine
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Yeah I love my baby....heart and soul
Love like ours wont never grow old
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Yeah I love my lady....shes long and lean
You mess with her....youll see a man get mean
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Well I love my baby....like the finest wine
Stick with her until the end of time
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Yeah I love my baby....heart and soul
Love like ours wont never grow old
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Well youve heard about love givin sight to the blind
My babys lovin cause the sun to shine
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Yeah I love my baby....heart and soul
Love like ours wont never grow old
Shes my sweet little thang....shes my pride and joy
Shes my sweet little baby....Im her little lover boy
Sand Castles
I remember someone building an incredible ice castle once, which I have pics of still, but these sand castles are almost as good. Maybe the girls & me could try this at the beach...
Love & Loyalty vs. Loss & Leaving
Love and loyalty instead of loss and letting- go, or leaving. I watched the Steve Wilkos show today while at the VA getting tests and it was titled "the fight of your life" about a man, his wife and daughters. And for years he would take his daughters bikes, xbox, etc, to get high on crack cocaine. His kids hid their stuff under their pillows when they slept. He even slid his wifes wedding and engagment rings off while she was sleeping to pawn them. His wife even gave him a $100 dollars so he could get the xbox back for the girls on their birthday and he took the money, got high, missed their birthdays (twins)and didn't get the xbox back. Sad...and his wife and children were not stupid...they stood by him, and continued to love him until he got help. This went on for a long time and his daughters and wife still believed in him, had faith. patience, and his response was "I just want to be the best husband and father I can be". That is so touching and beautiful when people will leave you at the drop of a hat over things that can be worked out, understood, and fixed.But he takes ownership and responsibility for all his actions now and is completely honest which is the way it should be. Everyone wants to change negative or bad behavior, and their mistakes.
I Miss My Main Squeeze
I miss my main Pimple Squeezer that is, more than anything.
'Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle..'
A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.
If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn't oversleep.
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.
The best vitamin for making friends..... B1.
The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.
One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.
You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself
If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.
One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.
Ideas won't work unless ' You' do.
Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open..
The 10 commandments are not a multiple choice.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been.
Life is too short to wake up with regrets. God has a plan! If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it.. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away.
Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong. Sometimes we just don't realize what real friendship means until it is too late.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
To My One & Only - Let It Grow
Im standin at the crossroads
Tryin to read the signs
To tell me which way I should
Go to find the answer
And all the time I know
Let your love and let it grow.
Let it grow, let it grow,
Let it blossom, let it flow.
In the sun and in the snow
Love is lovely, let it grow.
Lookin for a reason
To check out on my mind.
Its so hard to find a
Friend that I can count on.
Theres nothin left to show,
Plant your love and let it grow.
Let it grow...
Time is gettin shorter
And theres much for you to do,
Only askn you will get what you are needin,
The rest is up to you.
Plant your love and let it grow.
What If I Stay LK - I Love One Woman & One Woman Only In This World
I can’t make you turn around
And I can’t take back what I did
I wouldn’t blame you if you hated me
Before you slam that open door
And throw away four good years
If by accidnet you type in this adress you get the "Whole Holy"
http://qqq.trayofashness.blogpsot.com/
Think of everything we used to be
I know you say that you’re over me
But I’m askin you, beggin you not to leave
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
That you could move on
What if you stay
I know right now it’s hard to breathe
Hard to think and hard to see
All the reasons we should work it out
It might be easier to go,
But if you walk out, you’ll never know
How strong we could be at the end of this
I know that sorry is not enough
But I’ll do everything, anything to make it up
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
That you could move on
What if you stay
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
You could move on
What if you stay
Oooooo
I can’t make you turn around
And I can’t take back what I did
I wouldn’t blame you if you hated me
And I can’t take back what I did
I wouldn’t blame you if you hated me
Before you slam that open door
And throw away four good years
If by accidnet you type in this adress you get the "Whole Holy"
http://qqq.trayofashness.blogpsot.com/
Think of everything we used to be
I know you say that you’re over me
But I’m askin you, beggin you not to leave
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
That you could move on
What if you stay
I know right now it’s hard to breathe
Hard to think and hard to see
All the reasons we should work it out
It might be easier to go,
But if you walk out, you’ll never know
How strong we could be at the end of this
I know that sorry is not enough
But I’ll do everything, anything to make it up
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
That you could move on
What if you stay
What if I told you I’ve changed
Would you still walk away
What if I told you I loved you
Would you say that it’s too late
What if you could feel what I feel
When I watch you slowly drift away
What if you’re wrong
What if I’m right
You could move on
What if you stay
Oooooo
I can’t make you turn around
And I can’t take back what I did
I wouldn’t blame you if you hated me
I Can't Hold Out To Long
I just talked to my baby on the telephone,
She said, "Stop what you're doing and baby come on home."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
You said, "Baby don't you worry, you're my heart's desire.
You know that I love you, I can't stand to see you cry."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
She said, "Baby you can run, you can walk or fly.
You know that I love you, you're my heart's desire."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone, oh yeah.
I talked to my baby, I talked to my baby.
I talked to my baby, I talked to my baby.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
She said, "Stop what you're doing and baby come on home."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
You said, "Baby don't you worry, you're my heart's desire.
You know that I love you, I can't stand to see you cry."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
She said, "Baby you can run, you can walk or fly.
You know that I love you, you're my heart's desire."
I can't hold out, I can't hold out too long.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone, oh yeah.
I talked to my baby, I talked to my baby.
I talked to my baby, I talked to my baby.
I get a real good feeling talking to you on the phone.
Please Be With Me
Oh my word, what does it mean?
Is it love or is it me
That makes me change so suddenly?
Looking out, feeling free
Sit here lying in my bed
Wondering what it was I'd said
That made me think I'd lost my head,
When I knew I'd lost my heart instead
So won't you please read my signs, be a gypsy
Tell me what I hope to find deep within me.
Because you can find my mind, please be with me
Of all the better things I've heard
Loving you has made the words
And all the rest seem so absurd
'Cause in the end it all comes out, I'm sure
Won't you please read my signs, be a gypsy
Tell me what I hope to find deep within me.
Because you can find my mind, please be with me
Is it love or is it me
That makes me change so suddenly?
Looking out, feeling free
Sit here lying in my bed
Wondering what it was I'd said
That made me think I'd lost my head,
When I knew I'd lost my heart instead
So won't you please read my signs, be a gypsy
Tell me what I hope to find deep within me.
Because you can find my mind, please be with me
Of all the better things I've heard
Loving you has made the words
And all the rest seem so absurd
'Cause in the end it all comes out, I'm sure
Won't you please read my signs, be a gypsy
Tell me what I hope to find deep within me.
Because you can find my mind, please be with me
The Point Of Excess Leads To The Path Of Wisdom
Here is Clapton's drug addicted story...copy and paste this link...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILoK2IRAia4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILoK2IRAia4
British Humour
Little Susie goes home from school and tells her mum
that the boys keep asking her to do cartwheels
because she's very good at them.
Mum said :
" YOU should say NO
- they only want to look at your undies".
that the boys keep asking her to do cartwheels
because she's very good at them.
Mum said :
" YOU should say NO
- they only want to look at your undies".
Susie said: " I know they do
that's why I hide them in my backpack"!!
The Navy Is Coming to Milford Girls
Girls, I would love to take you to see the Navy Ships as they pull into Milford Harbor this weekend. You can go on them, which would be really neat for you guys to see. I know I cant send anything to your mom's work or house but your birthday is coming up...so hopefully we can do something together? You know how much daddy loves his girls, so here's a song for you....
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
The purpose of dogs
The Purpose of Dogs............
Dog lovers will enjoy the pictures
A Dog's Purpose
(from a 6-year old's perspective).
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolf hound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.
I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, 'I know why.' Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, 'People are born so that they can learn how to live a good Life -- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?' The Six-year-old continued, 'Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long.'
Dog lovers will enjoy the pictures
A Dog's Purpose
(from a 6-year old's perspective).
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolf hound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.
I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, 'I know why.' Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, 'People are born so that they can learn how to live a good Life -- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?' The Six-year-old continued, 'Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long.'
How To Get Through Life
Sleep as much as possible
Read books that you enjoy...
Play with simple things...
Do whatever you want --
whenever you want...
Look for affection when you need it...
Get serious once in a while...
Forget about diets...
Show some affection...
Get angry once in a while....
Change your looks...
Above all, be happy,
regardless of what
your challenges may be...
A man feared his wife
A man feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and thought she might need a hearing aid.
Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family doctor to discuss the problem.
The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.
Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you.
If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response."
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens."
Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"
No response.
So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Still no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again he gets no response.
So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
(I just love this)
"KEVIN! For the FIFTH time, CHICKEN!"
Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family doctor to discuss the problem.
The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.
Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you.
If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response."
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens."
Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"
No response.
So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Still no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again he gets no response.
So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
(I just love this)
"KEVIN! For the FIFTH time, CHICKEN!"
Monday, June 29, 2009
My Baby's Birthday is soon
My baby Drew Katerina's birthday is on the 18th, I really hope I get to see her.
18,000 men in 1918 form a human Statue Of Liberty
Human Statue of Liberty - 1918 PhotoIn...America
I find it amazing that this photo,
taken so many years ago, actually still exists!
This INCREDIBLE picture was taken in 1918.
It is 18,000 men preparing for war
in a training camp at Camp Dodge in Iowa .
EIGHTEEN THOUSAND MEN!!!!!
I find it amazing that this photo,
taken so many years ago, actually still exists!
This INCREDIBLE picture was taken in 1918.
It is 18,000 men preparing for war
in a training camp at Camp Dodge in Iowa .
EIGHTEEN THOUSAND MEN!!!!!
What a priceless gift from our grandfathers...
An airshow for my girls to see with Daddy
I ran the flight line and fueling for this show when it happened at Jones Beach in Long Island and wanted to post the pics so my girls could see. I hope to be able to take them to one of these.
The Wooden Bowl
The Wooden Bowl
I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl
tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now.
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year - old grandson.
The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and
failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.
When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
'We must do something about father,' said the son.
'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.'
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner.
Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded,
'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.
' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless.
Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.
Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table.
For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason,
neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
What I've Learned
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things:
a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents,
you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.
I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands.
You need to be able to throw something back
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you
But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others,
your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you
I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.
People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
And the only thing I want and ever wanted in my life
is my wife and kids
Nothing else matters...
You don't go 3 years
if they weren't that important and meant so much to me
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Parent Wanted - Job discription
PARENT - Job Description
This is hysterical. If it had been presented this way,
I don't believe any of us would have done it!!!!
POSITION :
Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma
Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa, Pop
JOB DESCRIPTION :
Long term, team players needed, for challenging,
permanent work in an
often chaotic environment.
Candidates must possess excellent communication
and organizational skills and be willing to work
variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends
and frequent 24 hour shifts on call..
Some overnight travel required, including trips to
primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in far
away cities!
Travel expenses not reimbursed.
Extensive courier duties also required.
RESPONSIBILITIES :
The rest of your life.
Must be willing to be hated, at least temporarily,
until someone needs $5.
Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly.
Also, must possess the physical stamina of a
pack mule
and be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat
in case, this time, the screams from
the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.
Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges,
such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets
and stuck zippers.
Must screen phone calls, maintain calendars and
coordinate production of multiple homework projects.
Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings
for clients of all ages and mental outlooks.
Must be a willing to be indispensable one minute,
an embarrassment the next.
Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a
half million cheap, plastic toys, and battery operated devices.
Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
Must assume final, complete accountability for
the quality of the end product.
Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and
janitorial work throughout the facility.
POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT & PROMOTION :
None.
Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining,
constantly retraining and updating your skills,
so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you
PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE :
None required unfortunately.
On-the-job training offered on a continually exhausting basis.
WAGES AND COMPENSATION :
Get this! You pay them!
Offering frequent raises and bonuses.
A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because
of the assumption that college will help them
become financially independent.
When you die, you give them whatever is left.
The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that
you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more..
BENEFITS :
While no health or dental insurance, no pension,
no tuition reimbursement, no paid holidays and
no stock options are offered;
this job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth, unconditional
love,
and free hugs and kisses for life if you play your cards right.
Forward this on to all the PARENTS you know, in appreciation for everything they
do on a daily basis,
letting them know they are appreciated
for the fabulous job they do....
or forward with love
to anyone thinking of applying for the job.
This is hysterical. If it had been presented this way,
I don't believe any of us would have done it!!!!
POSITION :
Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma
Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa, Pop
JOB DESCRIPTION :
Long term, team players needed, for challenging,
permanent work in an
often chaotic environment.
Candidates must possess excellent communication
and organizational skills and be willing to work
variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends
and frequent 24 hour shifts on call..
Some overnight travel required, including trips to
primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in far
away cities!
Travel expenses not reimbursed.
Extensive courier duties also required.
RESPONSIBILITIES :
The rest of your life.
Must be willing to be hated, at least temporarily,
until someone needs $5.
Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly.
Also, must possess the physical stamina of a
pack mule
and be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat
in case, this time, the screams from
the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.
Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges,
such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets
and stuck zippers.
Must screen phone calls, maintain calendars and
coordinate production of multiple homework projects.
Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings
for clients of all ages and mental outlooks.
Must be a willing to be indispensable one minute,
an embarrassment the next.
Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a
half million cheap, plastic toys, and battery operated devices.
Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
Must assume final, complete accountability for
the quality of the end product.
Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and
janitorial work throughout the facility.
POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT & PROMOTION :
None.
Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining,
constantly retraining and updating your skills,
so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you
PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE :
None required unfortunately.
On-the-job training offered on a continually exhausting basis.
WAGES AND COMPENSATION :
Get this! You pay them!
Offering frequent raises and bonuses.
A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because
of the assumption that college will help them
become financially independent.
When you die, you give them whatever is left.
The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that
you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more..
BENEFITS :
While no health or dental insurance, no pension,
no tuition reimbursement, no paid holidays and
no stock options are offered;
this job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth, unconditional
love,
and free hugs and kisses for life if you play your cards right.
Forward this on to all the PARENTS you know, in appreciation for everything they
do on a daily basis,
letting them know they are appreciated
for the fabulous job they do....
or forward with love
to anyone thinking of applying for the job.
Lawyers & Cops
If you ever testify in court, you might wish you could have been as sharp as this policeman. He was being cross-examined by a defense attorney during a felony trial. The lawyer was trying to undermine the policeman's credibility..
Q: 'Officer -- did you see my client fleeing the scene?'
A: 'No sir. But I subsequently observed a person matching the description of the offender, running several blocks away.'.
Q: 'Officer -- who provided this description?'
A: 'The officer who responded to the scene.'
Q: 'A fellow officer provided the description of this so-called offender. Do you trust your fellow officers?'
'Yes, sir. With my life.
Q: 'With your life? Let me ask you this then officer. Do you have a room where you change your clothes in preparation for your daily duties?'
A: 'Yes sir, we do!'
Q: 'And do you have a locker in the room?'
A: 'Yes sir, I do.'
Q: 'And do you have a lock on your locker?'
A: 'Yes sir.'
Q: 'Now why is it, officer, if you trust your fellow officers with your life, you find it necessary to lock your locker in a room you share with these same officers?'
A: 'You see, sir -- we share the building with the court complex, and sometimes lawyers have been known to walk through that room.'
Q: 'With your life? Let me ask you this then officer. Do you have a room where you change your clothes in preparation for your daily duties?'
A: 'Yes sir, we do!'
Q: 'And do you have a locker in the room?'
A: 'Yes sir, I do.'
Q: 'And do you have a lock on your locker?'
A: 'Yes sir.'
Q: 'Now why is it, officer, if you trust your fellow officers with your life, you find it necessary to lock your locker in a room you share with these same officers?'
A: 'You see, sir -- we share the building with the court complex, and sometimes lawyers have been known to walk through that room.'
The courtroom EXPLODED with laughter, and a prompt recess was called.
Mansion after Masion after Mansion
Spent the day on the Island of Bayville, after passing mansion after mansion with huge gates and pillars, in one of the most sought after area's for the rich and famous, I finally reached reality, a nice Island beach, and a warm blanket. Ferrari's and Maserati everywhere, I guess it's where the rich go and live to be left alone but also near the city. I know Jaylo and Mark Anthony live there and Billy Joel and then I was even more surprised to see exotic yacths anchored along the coast line.
Father & Daughter's
I've got a deck of cards to play Uno with my girls when I see them, and here is a Dad talking a nice walk with his daughter, and of course "talking".In this New England troubled economy, with all the financial stress and worry, with no one on the Post Rd yesterday, stores closing left and right with tons of retail empty storefronts, and two long time restaurants closing here recently, its important to spend quality time with your kids, and take a break from it all. That's why family is so important to get you through the hard times...And as most Dad's want boys to do guy things with, its even more important for a Dad to bond with his girls for a well balanced and well adjusted childhood growing up.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
What a day...
Pruned all day, and watched married couples walk up and down the street all day with their children. I couldn't believe seeing this in the sky tonight either, and all lacy wanted to do is meet everyone
Waitng for the perfect day and my girls
Last night was pretty rough, alot to think about in my mind right now and tough decisions to make regarding the future. You can tell by my music choices, that what I hear - I feel.
I wish today was the perfect day, the girls and me planned a BBQ, picnic outing, went to the beach or a boat ride, rode our bikes, played some sports together, or planned a day trip somewhere.
I don't know how much longer I can go without them in my life. I burn to have them back. It is the greatest loss (just the time we all missed alone, although it was to heal and change) that I have experienced - losing 3 people I loved with all my heart. I still wait for that surprise call and hear my girls voices on the other end.
I had another one of those vivid dreams again last night too, and it blows my mind, the detail, words, etc., that take place in these dreams of such clarity. This is my 2nd one. Maybe I'll head down to Milf or up to Trumbull, it's an almost perfect day.
I just wish we could put all the past behind and try to be a family again, you don't have to be married to do that.
And for starters and her own peace of mind, she can always just stop over at night or on the weekends with the girls at my house and be present. She knows where I live, Compo & Sherwood Island are just right up the road.
The girls can play with the girls next door and across the street. Today, they were selling lemonade for 5 cents at their stand. You can see the umbrella in the pics above. Really cute...
I wish today was the perfect day, the girls and me planned a BBQ, picnic outing, went to the beach or a boat ride, rode our bikes, played some sports together, or planned a day trip somewhere.
I don't know how much longer I can go without them in my life. I burn to have them back. It is the greatest loss (just the time we all missed alone, although it was to heal and change) that I have experienced - losing 3 people I loved with all my heart. I still wait for that surprise call and hear my girls voices on the other end.
I had another one of those vivid dreams again last night too, and it blows my mind, the detail, words, etc., that take place in these dreams of such clarity. This is my 2nd one. Maybe I'll head down to Milf or up to Trumbull, it's an almost perfect day.
I just wish we could put all the past behind and try to be a family again, you don't have to be married to do that.
And for starters and her own peace of mind, she can always just stop over at night or on the weekends with the girls at my house and be present. She knows where I live, Compo & Sherwood Island are just right up the road.
The girls can play with the girls next door and across the street. Today, they were selling lemonade for 5 cents at their stand. You can see the umbrella in the pics above. Really cute...
Friday, June 26, 2009
Can't Let You Go...Your All That I Know - Abbey Road
I adore you, your part of my soul, your all that I know
I Have A Disease...I Can't Live Without You
I wish the Lord would just take me already like he took Micheal & Farrah today, and just put me out of being trapped in my own prison.
Hot Date Tonight...
They all have houses and they all have kids, except I dont want someone else's house, or someone else's kids.So I had a date with a psychologist tonight right after she returned from Manhattan to Milford train station. She lives in Milford down by the beach...ironic. They all have kids, they all have house. She gets up at 4am for work and then and its "happy hour" at the Trumbull Marriott on a Friday night. When she said meet me at the Marriott I thought??? what???. A hotel...the Marriott.
Well first of all, I haven't been there since my wedding night. 2nd - I wore my Italian suit that I also wore for the first time on my wedding night. Then she tells me that "everyone", regardless of how many partners anyone has, it is 5 years when the couple grows apart. Now how you handle that growing apart at the 5 year mark is another story. Most - divorce. But its how you "get through" that 5 year mark is what really matters. Alot of guys divorce their wives at 5, 6, or 7 years she also added. She also said...if there is still "confrontation" then there is still feelings. Its when you go "numb" that there is no feelings. I wish we got help or counselling because I still don't think the divorce should have happened unless it was just about citizenship. I would have done anything. So being single means looking for other singles that have been dumped, dropped, divorced, separated, etc. And sadly enough...all have children involved.
It was weird being in the same room, at the same table, I was on our wedding day. Since I wont go to bars or clubs anymore, and want nothing to do with them...theirs only restaurants really because one thing I know - you "don't" want to be drinking on a date....that's for damn sure.
"She" was at my clubs "Grand Opening" and her friends talked about it all night after, they couldnt believe it or the music...as she put it. That was nice to hear...and another weird thing with this connection.
As I was leaving the fireworks went off at Trumbull day up the road., and I realized I don't want to move into a long-term commitment moving to Long Island, nor do I want to deal with dating either. I realized I still want to be a Dad and a husband with my family. I know what I want, and I know what I don't want. And I also know there's much better and nicer places to live than here. I'd move to Europe in a heart beat.
This date came here 13 years ago from the Ukraine, and she doesn't belong here, and she doesn't belong there anymore either. And she came to the US for 6 months, which turned into a year...and the rest is her past. Same story different day...join the club. I can't get into it, I really can't. Where is the woman I am suppose to meet if the x doesn't snap out of her senses and admit she was wrong, made a mistake, and a bad call? and hurt the girls too by taking their one and only father away from them? Whats the sense in that? right Dido? Sometimes this world just doesn't sense...when we make the wrong move...and can't retract our actions...just to save face. Its a real shame, to ruin someones life and others with it - like my girls.
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Maybe I'll see my darlings this weekend
I ran the backhoe all day in New Canaan almost next to the owner of Virgin Air's house. Small planting job but was thinking maybe I'll run into my girls at Trumbull day thats on all weekend and at night with fireworks or maybe at the Milford Oyster Fest. when that happens. My x & I used to like Trumbull day living in Trumbull. And there is nothing saying I can't see them and once the legal thing with the x is over, could visit them at their house or anywhere i want too, which will be soon.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
I Will Go Down With This Ship...Cause I'm In Love, And Always Will Be
I like to sit on my lawn chair at night, around now - 7pm or so at Southport Harbor or Compo Beach and reflect and think. Tonight I kicked up my feet and realized I had a close call with the chain saw today and could of lost a leg. To close for comfort. I cleared our backyard when we lived in Trumbull of all the tree's a man could cut, and today on the simplest limb...almost lost one.
I was thinking tonight about how much I miss St. George Island in Fla and how much I wanted my girls to see "paradise". And Georgia, how we could have had a farm with horses for dirt cheap. And should I move to Bayville just to get caught up financially or stay here to be close to my girls...but yet dying on the vine because its so bad. And then I realized, I don't know what to do. My choices affect my daughters and I want that to stop and get on the same page and plan with them and their mother.
I'm on a dating site too because I am not sure I want to settle down yet, with someone or anyone, just to do it. I am contemplating the Bayville move because it is a serious commitment. And I used to say put your hand over a flame for a second and it seems like an hour. But cast your eyes on the woman of your dreams for an hour and it seems like a second. Well thats how I feel. I get alot of emails for dates and a local woman who works for a big name fashion magazine in NYC but so what...I just don't feel the energy to pursue them. I also have one of the hottest best kept secret dance clubs right down my road with tons of women but so what. After you've had the best...how can you settle for something other than what you truly want in your heart? And if I can't ask a very special someone to pass me the tray of ashness just one more time for just one last chance...and be a family again, and like any good sailor would rather go down with the ship then sit here and just be alone. Thats my choice...and I've let the ones I love still know this.
So here's my song to her...
I was thinking tonight about how much I miss St. George Island in Fla and how much I wanted my girls to see "paradise". And Georgia, how we could have had a farm with horses for dirt cheap. And should I move to Bayville just to get caught up financially or stay here to be close to my girls...but yet dying on the vine because its so bad. And then I realized, I don't know what to do. My choices affect my daughters and I want that to stop and get on the same page and plan with them and their mother.
I'm on a dating site too because I am not sure I want to settle down yet, with someone or anyone, just to do it. I am contemplating the Bayville move because it is a serious commitment. And I used to say put your hand over a flame for a second and it seems like an hour. But cast your eyes on the woman of your dreams for an hour and it seems like a second. Well thats how I feel. I get alot of emails for dates and a local woman who works for a big name fashion magazine in NYC but so what...I just don't feel the energy to pursue them. I also have one of the hottest best kept secret dance clubs right down my road with tons of women but so what. After you've had the best...how can you settle for something other than what you truly want in your heart? And if I can't ask a very special someone to pass me the tray of ashness just one more time for just one last chance...and be a family again, and like any good sailor would rather go down with the ship then sit here and just be alone. Thats my choice...and I've let the ones I love still know this.
So here's my song to her...
I know you think that I shouldn't still love you
Or tell you that
But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it
Where's the sense in that?
I promise I'm not trying to make your life harder
Or return to where we were
But I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be
I know I left too much mess and destruction
To come back again
And I caused nothing but trouble
I understand if you can't talk to me again
And if you live by the rules of it's over
Then I'm sure that that makes sense
But I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be
And when we meet, which I'm sure we will
All that was there will be there still
I'll let it pass and hold my tongue
And you will think that I've moved on
I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be
I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be
I will go down with this ship
And I won't put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I'm in love and always will be
The Best Business Location in Ffld Cnty
My neighbor is thinking of leasing the "best" retail spot on the Post Rd in Westport, with every car on the Rt.1 going by it, for a grooming salon. Cheaper than a van 45k to 60k and trying to get financed...I think that was the issue - no one wants to lend a dime these days with things so bad.
But every morning I stop at 6am for coffee and shoot the shite with all my Buddies at the deli every morning next door, and the owners mother used to be my fathers secretary. So I'm kind in the family now and he makes me homemade dinners after work, and he is the one renting next door - so its an in. I would need my x or find a groomer for the little dogs but the location is the best spot from Bridgeport to Norwalk for business and visibility. Its a location "perfect" for a salon...even Kennels and boarding "where the real money is" in the back. My neighbor would even put her in her own business because she is "good" then she wouldn't have to work for anyone anymore, and could do a much better job support our girls...I could bath and do the big ones...as I already have several people asking me to do their Newfy's...
I could spend July & Aug (the slowest months) remodeling it and setting it up myself after work each night for a Grand Opening in September...the best month before going into the holidays.
But every morning I stop at 6am for coffee and shoot the shite with all my Buddies at the deli every morning next door, and the owners mother used to be my fathers secretary. So I'm kind in the family now and he makes me homemade dinners after work, and he is the one renting next door - so its an in. I would need my x or find a groomer for the little dogs but the location is the best spot from Bridgeport to Norwalk for business and visibility. Its a location "perfect" for a salon...even Kennels and boarding "where the real money is" in the back. My neighbor would even put her in her own business because she is "good" then she wouldn't have to work for anyone anymore, and could do a much better job support our girls...I could bath and do the big ones...as I already have several people asking me to do their Newfy's...
I could spend July & Aug (the slowest months) remodeling it and setting it up myself after work each night for a Grand Opening in September...the best month before going into the holidays.
There's One Thing In This World That I "Don't Know" for sure
The one thing in this world that I don't know for sure is "why" the x is still keeping my girls from seeing me? I wish she'd just "talk" and communicate already and stop hiding., which for the life of me - I still can't understand. It is like holding them for ransom. What is she afraid of "talking" or just having a normal life & relationship with the girls. Although, out of site out of mind might be her thinking, I know those girls need and want me in their life as much as any girl could want a father. Who knows what she told them regarding where I am and have been, or what she tells them regarding why they can't see their Dad? That I dont want them? or I don't care?
There are sooooo many things I want to do with my girls...but its the birthdays and holidays the girls must miss me, and I miss them the most, and I'm hoping the x will let the girls vacation with me for 10 days in July (For Drew's Birthday) at this huge house I am dog-sitting for in Westport, with a beautiful yard and pool.
I taught Drew how to swim in Florida, when every day we would go to the pool and she loved it. My x isn't much of a swimmer/water person but the girls loved it with me. I hope we can spend alot of time together this summer...already. She's got my number...and will hopefully have gotten up the courage by now to call and talk finally about our daughters.
I have to say there has been nothing in my life I have missed...or missed more...except my Girls & my X and wish we were family again with a beautiful, happy, ending or beginning. Thats all I've wanted all this time...nothing more, nothing else. It just doesn't go away and I don't know why. I just still love them so much and can't help it. They are all I ever wanted in my life...
There are sooooo many things I want to do with my girls...but its the birthdays and holidays the girls must miss me, and I miss them the most, and I'm hoping the x will let the girls vacation with me for 10 days in July (For Drew's Birthday) at this huge house I am dog-sitting for in Westport, with a beautiful yard and pool.
I taught Drew how to swim in Florida, when every day we would go to the pool and she loved it. My x isn't much of a swimmer/water person but the girls loved it with me. I hope we can spend alot of time together this summer...already. She's got my number...and will hopefully have gotten up the courage by now to call and talk finally about our daughters.
I have to say there has been nothing in my life I have missed...or missed more...except my Girls & my X and wish we were family again with a beautiful, happy, ending or beginning. Thats all I've wanted all this time...nothing more, nothing else. It just doesn't go away and I don't know why. I just still love them so much and can't help it. They are all I ever wanted in my life...
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
There's Only One Thing In This World That I Know For Sure
There's only one thing in my life, my lifetime that I know for sure. Its how much I love, loved and adored my wife, family, and daughters. To this day if you asked me what was the one thing I have ever wanted in my life...well, the answer would be just to have my girls, who are my pride & joy, back in my life again.
I never knew I felt this deeply before, that my love for them will not extinguish, go dim, or fade. It burns like a torch in the night and never ends for me. That is a feeling of the ultimate love for someone...the love that never falters over time but keeps burning out of control in the night because it is "real" and was always "true" throughout the test of time...and undauntedly. And I would do anything, yes anything to have them back in my life.
There is nothing that I could want more than the woman of my dreams back and my children, my daughters, my darling girls. They thought I didn't love them this much...well they were wrong, because I am still trying to prove it to them...now, today, 3 years later. "They" are all I have ever wanted...and all I have ever wanted in my life...
I never knew I felt this deeply before, that my love for them will not extinguish, go dim, or fade. It burns like a torch in the night and never ends for me. That is a feeling of the ultimate love for someone...the love that never falters over time but keeps burning out of control in the night because it is "real" and was always "true" throughout the test of time...and undauntedly. And I would do anything, yes anything to have them back in my life.
There is nothing that I could want more than the woman of my dreams back and my children, my daughters, my darling girls. They thought I didn't love them this much...well they were wrong, because I am still trying to prove it to them...now, today, 3 years later. "They" are all I have ever wanted...and all I have ever wanted in my life...
The Power Of The Holy Spirit is Intense
Even the beauty of a rose doesn't compare to you LK
Daddy dancing with his girlsThe power of the Holy Spirit is so intense. I spent the 1st time in my life, face to face, past, present, and future with my x and the girls last night. It was so vivid I could feel our touch, our kisses, everything, so much so, I thought it was all real as I spent 8 hours in this dream. I lost track of everything. I tried to watch the clock as I slept all night long only to think reality was lying to me, that's how real I believed this dream was. So why am I sharing this, because the power of the holy spirit comes to you in dreams...and this one blew my mind...whether it was a taste of what is yet to come or not...I was overwhelmed and recall every detail...which I have never done before.
What a beautiful view...
Had an awesome time today in the drizzy on my fizzle, but enjoyed the view today in Westport. I was advised by family services to take the X to court for contempt for not letting me see my daughters as ordered by the court. It is documented that she hasn't returned phone calls nor a letter so I have what I need. Any Judge will tell you, even if you don't pay a dime, you have a right to see your kids. And if she takes me to court for C.S. arrearages, they will laugh when they see the cost to just to live here...to be near them. The X & I pay over 2,000 between us just to have a roof over our heads - that's insane. I offered for them to move to Georgia. But I can't do anything about child support now because I cant have contact with the x, but family Services told me today they intentionally allowed the girls to see their Father. So now, its plan b. And regarding my current law issues with the x from a year and a half ago - "for custody" which is why she did it...I cant be tried twice for the same thing as it was brought up in the divorce trial, so everything will be thrown out. God is finally bringing justice after being screwed over repeatedly for the past two years. My girls will know the truth and everything....if the x I me dont get back together on the same page again. So as the x knows from experience, if you can't beat em - join em.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
This Is My Life Now & The Song I Need To Hear
This is me and my life and I heard this today on the radio and almost cried. I wish it was the song that I've been longing to hear for the past 2 years, from the one that has meant the most to me...who I've always loved and probably always will. I miss and love my girls so much but feel I have failed them now. What an emotional journey this whole divorce has been and how bad I want to have it become a new beginning...but its not easy to live a life without the ones you loved so much and with all your heart. True love never goes away, it just "torments" you it seems. I am ashamed that I have failed the ones I care about the most...and that too, torments me every day. Its a heavy weight and burden that I dont know how to make go away. Maybe it is "failure" when I've been raised never to fail? These words are perfect as I have tried everything in this song...and returning, was from Jax, and I did see everything burnt down when I returned. I feel I am the one who lit the match and what could make a man regret everything, blame himself, and feel guilty for all that has occurred. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can't change my shirt.
I do know one thing for sure. My "girls" never asked for this or deserve a life like this from their Dad and I take complete responsibility for their life now. And to you, my girls, this is the hardest thing I have ever had to do...recover from a nose-dive & tail-spin when everything this has caused you - started, and went into action, and then became a run-away-train with its wheels loose.
I do know one thing for sure. My "girls" never asked for this or deserve a life like this from their Dad and I take complete responsibility for their life now. And to you, my girls, this is the hardest thing I have ever had to do...recover from a nose-dive & tail-spin when everything this has caused you - started, and went into action, and then became a run-away-train with its wheels loose.
In this proud land we grew up strong
We were wanted all along
I was taught to fight, taught to win
I never thought I could fail
No fight left or so it seems
I am a man whose dreams have all deserted
Ive changed my face, Ive changed my name
But no one wants you when you lose
Dont give up
cos you have friends
Dont give up
Your not beaten yet
Dont give up
I know you can make it good
Though I saw it all around
Never thought I could be affected
Thought that we'd be the last to go
It is so strange the way things turn
Drove the night toward my home
The place that I was born, on the lakeside
As daylight broke, I saw the earth
The trees had burned down to the ground
Dont give up
You still have us
Dont give up
We dont need much of anything
Dont give up
cause somewhere there's a place
Where we belong
Rest your head
You worry too much
Its going to be alright
When times get rough
You can fall back on us
Dont give up
Please dont give up
got to walk out of here
I cant take anymore
Going to stand on that bridge
Keep my eyes down below
Whatever may come
And whatever may go
That rivers flowing
That rivers flowing
Moved on to another town
Tried hard to settle down
For every job, so many men
So many men no-one needs
Dont give up
cause you have friends
Dont give up
You're not the only one
Dont give up
No reason to be ashamed
Dont give up
You still have us
Dont give up now
Were proud of who you are
Dont give up
You know its never been easy
Dont give up
cause I believe there's that place
There's a place where we belong
Don't Give Up - I love this song featuring Kate Bush
In this proud land we grew up strong
We were wanted all along
I was taught to fight, taught to win
I never thought I could fail
No fight left or so it seems
I am a man whose dreams have all deserted
Ive changed my face, Ive changed my name
But no one wants you when you lose
Dont give up
cos you have friends
Dont give up
Your not beaten yet
Dont give up
I know you can make it good
Though I saw it all around
Never thought I could be affected
Thought that wed be the last to go
It is so strange the way things turn
Drove the night toward my home
The place that I was born, on the lakeside
As daylight broke, I saw the earth
The trees had burned down to the ground
Dont give up
You still have us
Dont give up
We dont need much of anything
Dont give up
cause somewhere there's a place
Where we belong
Rest your head
You worry too much
Its going to be alright
When times get rough
You can fall back on us
Dont give up
Please dont give up
got to walk out of here
I cant take anymore
Going to stand on that bridge
Keep my eyes down below
Whatever may come
And whatever may go
That rivers flowing
That rivers flowing
Moved on to another town
Tried hard to settle down
For every job, so many men
So many men no-one needs
Dont give up
cause you have friends
Dont give up
You're not the only one
Dont give up
No reason to be ashamed
Dont give up
You still have us
Dont give up now
Were proud of who you are
Dont give up
You know its never been easy
Dont give up
cause I believe there;s that place
There's a place where we belong
Marriage Couselling Doesn't Work, But This Does... Watch, Listen, Live & Learn That It Takes Time.
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Pruning tree's today I realized it takes time for a tree to grow into what it becomes. I remember my neighbor telling me that kids are like trees. When they are young they bend but when they are big they don't. I love pruning because it is all about getting rid of the dead wood so the tree becomes healthier and grows bigger. Isn't that the lesson in a marriage and relationship, or as a parent?
Most marriage counseling doesn't work -- and in fact it can make your marriage worse! Find out why....and it usually takes 2 years to accomplish (you can't rush it) and most give up because there isn't immediate change or its temporary for a few months. Good things come to those to wait. It takes 3 years to become a completely "new man". So do the math why most marriages fail. You have to be patient and stick through it "together". I never had the opportunity to get any help unfortunately and had to learn everything on my own. After you lose your house, your car, your kids...basically everything in a divorce you want to know "why" or "what happened".
My X wanted me to change in a couple months when it started...she couldnt wait. That's all I wanted was time to change. Its easier to throw the baby out with the bath water than save your love for each other when its things from childhood or how your raised that need to be corrected. You don't sample through someone new when their faults will come out too eventually in about the same time frame it took for your old marriage to go bad, unless you learn "How to make a marriage work". Joel & Kathy put it all down in their book and its the opposite of what everyone tries and then fails at. After you hear their stories...anyone can save their marriage. If you loved your spouse, have a family and children - isn't it worth it? Rather than to making your children suffer through life growing up while you do too. Live & Learn.
My X wanted me to change in a couple months when it started...she couldnt wait. That's all I wanted was time to change. Its easier to throw the baby out with the bath water than save your love for each other when its things from childhood or how your raised that need to be corrected. You don't sample through someone new when their faults will come out too eventually in about the same time frame it took for your old marriage to go bad, unless you learn "How to make a marriage work". Joel & Kathy put it all down in their book and its the opposite of what everyone tries and then fails at. After you hear their stories...anyone can save their marriage. If you loved your spouse, have a family and children - isn't it worth it? Rather than to making your children suffer through life growing up while you do too. Live & Learn.
Monday, June 22, 2009
That's The Reason Why
That's The Reason Why
(Robert Hamilton)
(Robert Hamilton)
I don't believe in love on the borrow
Here today & then gone tomorrow
You've got to stick by me through the bad days
It's forever, now & always
So if you want me, go out & buy a ring
You gotta show me before I do a thing
Before I start to kiss you, before I start to miss you
Before I let you take my heart
'Cause I know a lot of guys
They go along telling lies & breaking hearts
They make you cry
That's the reason why
Don't you know you got prove that your love is real
Let the preacher close the deal
I don't wanna take a chance
On just a fly-by-night romance
That's the reason why
Now I don't mean to be hard on you
But baby this is what I gotta do
You know so many guys have come around
...& then fade
But baby this is what I gotta do
You know so many guys have come around
...& then fade
This is where my daughters can live...I might be moving here...If I can muster up the courage to do so
Unless I hear something from the x regarding the girls I will probably have to move to Bayville, NY to live rent free in order to catch up on C.S. because, as before, there are no jobs or work in Ffld County. Its all dried up. Only the Mexicans are working illegally and the rich around here are hiring them because they can't afford regular workers, yet alone repairs on their houses or landscaping. So you have to be ready to change with the economy, and my neighbor is afraid to invest now with the economy so bad. its alot worse than anyone thinks. I cant afford to live in Bridgeport for 900 to 1300 a month plus expenses. The local S&S here in Westport is all minority, the only good thing is in L.I. they're all old school, old fashioned, Americans...they hire only "one kind" and one kind only. They have their own little world over their and I guess the "x" will just have to put the girls on the Port Jeff Ferry to spend the weekends with me at the beach-house in Bayville. even Queens has more work than here...
Bayville used to be a summer community but now most residents live year round. I talked to some friends who are residents of Bayville and asked why they love Bayville and was told the small town community atmosphere, close to the beach, beautiful sunsets , plenty of restaurants but no fast food restaurants. In the summer time, it's so pleasant to go to an Oyster Bar near the Bayville Bridge.
Residents of Bayville will not want to live anywhere else because of its location close to the water. However, there is a trade off. Bayville has no public transportation and the nearest train station is 10 minutes drive to Locust Valley or even farther to Syosset where there are plenty of trains.
Price ranges from $619,000 for a ranch and $1,650,000 for a colonial.
So girls....This is my girlfriends house where you can stay or live or visit every weekend, and we'll get or use a boat as we are directly across from Greenwich.
Bayville used to be a summer community but now most residents live year round. I talked to some friends who are residents of Bayville and asked why they love Bayville and was told the small town community atmosphere, close to the beach, beautiful sunsets , plenty of restaurants but no fast food restaurants. In the summer time, it's so pleasant to go to an Oyster Bar near the Bayville Bridge.
Residents of Bayville will not want to live anywhere else because of its location close to the water. However, there is a trade off. Bayville has no public transportation and the nearest train station is 10 minutes drive to Locust Valley or even farther to Syosset where there are plenty of trains.
Price ranges from $619,000 for a ranch and $1,650,000 for a colonial.
So girls....This is my girlfriends house where you can stay or live or visit every weekend, and we'll get or use a boat as we are directly across from Greenwich.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
To My Neigbors In Milford & Middletown
Hello Milford and Middletown, thanks for reading and I appreciate you watching my blog daily and I'd love to hear your thoughts or comments. You know how to reach me. Leave me a message and I will contact you back...as we are neighbors and understand what living in Ct is like right now. And a shout out to Tania in Groton, what are your thoughts? I'd like to listen and understand my readers who are following my so called emotional journey, or as the "x" would put it...my ramblings, but expression is good when you've been flying "solo" through life the past few years. Alot to think about and reflect upon to say the least..right? I don't put thoughts out of my head because I dont want to deal with them or cast judgement on someone or something because I dont understand what their life might be like.
Here's a pic of the "Big Green Bush" in L.I. Sound, aka Chuckys Island in Milford, which I have made the trek to and back by foot with my old flame Marie. It wasn't pleasant and chewed our feet up considerably. Milford, and this spot was my old stomping ground well before I ever met my "x" who lives there now. This is where we always tied up the Britsealee, our boat too.
I'm so flattered and love the fact that she wants to live with my daughters in our "Old Love Ground" and go by Devon everyday where we got married. Its an honor that she wants the daily memories of all our history together.
Here's a pic of the "Big Green Bush" in L.I. Sound, aka Chuckys Island in Milford, which I have made the trek to and back by foot with my old flame Marie. It wasn't pleasant and chewed our feet up considerably. Milford, and this spot was my old stomping ground well before I ever met my "x" who lives there now. This is where we always tied up the Britsealee, our boat too.
I'm so flattered and love the fact that she wants to live with my daughters in our "Old Love Ground" and go by Devon everyday where we got married. Its an honor that she wants the daily memories of all our history together.
What is a "Dad" - to my daughters & from my daughters
This is all I am and ever will be..."DAD" A FATHER isn't something you can buy at the store or shop for. They aren't "just there" or around either. They have a mission. A job, a dream. A dream of hope, peace, and compassion. A dream for his family and a dream for his children. Dad's are always there for us no matter what. They do what they have to do and always want the best for us. They'll always be their to kiss you good night or give you a hug when your down and need someone to turn too. Dad's will never leave us. They'll always be in our hearts. They'll always be there to give us a laugh whether its their silly dancing or jokes. They will always cheer you up. They wont back down on us. They wont quit their mission because its to hard or to tiring, they are always determined.They never let you down, or give up and quit. Dad's are like Lions. They always protect their "cubs". They're like shepherds guiding their sheep. They will always be there to defend you, protect you, and fight for you. Some mothers realize and respect this male quality for their offspring and some mothers "don't" or "won't" understand the important role we play in our childrens lives and development - providing "Balance" between a Mom & Dad, and most importantly in a childs life. Two is "always" better than "one".
Update on the Croatian Retreat
My girlfriends daughter Natasha, is very similar to my sister-in-law who likes to travel and experience new things, kinda a "free spirit" type who went to New Zealand and China. My mother-in-law takes frequent trips to Sweden. Her daughters latest joke is when am I going to meet my "New Dad" ? and I hope no illegal aliens work doing landscaping with him. She is on a wilderness retreat up in the mountains and will then be vacationing at her grandmothers Island Villa in the Adriatic. My Navy squadron was in the Adriatic enforcing the no-fly-zone in 93 when Bella, her mother & father (a Steinway pianist) and her daughter fled the country 19 years ago. Now it is as peaceful as the sound of music providing you don't step on a mine...just kidding. I am suppose to go to Croatia and to St. George straights in Canada for a couple of get-a-ways in the Fall, the most beautiful time of the season. Austin her son was just given his Fathers boat which he needs some help with. If I went to Europe I doubt I would return. I respect the European culture so much more than the Americans after traveling extensively throughout Europe in the Navy. In fact, the man that started the retreat is an American Bio-Physicist who wanted to leave the hustle & bustle of the rat-race and return to his home country and roots to live a peaceful life. That takes "guts" living in the Mountains of Croatia but still doing lectures in Seattle about it. My hats off to him and the 25 people that visit his retreat to learn to live in Nature.65,000 Jobs lost
It was just published in the newspaper that 65,000 jobs (or 65,000 people lost their jobs in CT however you want to look at it) were lost within this past year. Thats a pretty staggering number for Connecticut residents who already are having trouble just keeping up with local high costs. $100 at the grocery store pretty much buys you nothing these days and with gas going back up this summer, one can only start to worry about this coming winter again. I've been job hunting because 16 to 30 hours a week isn't cutting it with work drying up and people afraid to spend money. I will probably have to move back to Long Island where their is a strong working-class polulation and much higher chances of work. You almost have to be a minority now to get a job anywhere around here - or mexican.No offense to anyone but its really true...look in the grocery stores and food service and walgreens, etc. I see it every day.